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We adapt, we accept, but we never get over it!

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Today I grief the death of another childhood friend that passed this morning due to one of the most tragic cause of death this nation and generation has been facing. Something that’s been destroying our generation, drug overdose. This epidemic that you don’t see it’s a problem till it’s too late. Leaving us all with just the memory we all shared with her including her two beautiful children, E & D I know you guys will miss your mom forever. Her mom (G) Nothing will ever take this pain away. I hope God will comfort you. Comfort us all 😦 .
My heart is filled with sadness. We had so many talks and you told me so many times you could fight this. I know it was hard, I know you tried. May your soul now Rest In Peace. I will forever miss you. Miss the days we spent together since 5th grade. All those times at your house when your mom and your sister had to make us lunch after school. We had so much fun. After we grew up going out to eat and hanging out. It was always a pleasant time to be around you. Karaoke  night at the Chinese place all of us together was a night to remember. I will never forget. 😦

Lindsay’s death was a tragedy, it really has been a tragic waste, and like the bitter pill that’s hard to swallow, it leaves an awful after taste. So I hope this message gets home, and her death hasn’t been in vain, because I’d hate anybody else, to have to go through all this, all again. You only get one chance on this earth, and I hope that line stays in someone’s mind, because the very real tragedy, is what happens to those that get left behind.

In Memory

We have all lost someone that we love today 

One that we all wish

was never taken from us this way

But God thought it was their time to leave

Ans now this is the moment 

For us their friends and family to grieve

We keep asking ourselves why 

Why do the good die young?

Why don’t we ever get a warning 

To when our day will come?

We were all just having birthdays and having so much fun

Tell us why you had to take them 

I mean our lives have just begun

It hurts so much to think

That they are no longer here 

When we keep seeing their face 

Through each falling tear 

Now knowing that their memory will never disappear

Although we keep pleading that this tragic ordeal 

Is anything but real

We are demanding the pain we feel

Of our hearts breaking and tearing from the seams

To somehow just be one heart rendering bad dream

Though as we awaken and realize it is not

We can remember the good times we had with them 

And forget about the times we all fought

There for please cherish all the memories

And never forget their laugh

Because we all have a piece of them within us

And that is how the love they had 

For everyone will forever last

We hope that you knew 

How many people truly cared about you

And that in your passing you have taught us

That we should always stand tall

And that we have to try to make the best of it all

Hopefully, through this tragedy, we all will wake up & see

That life can be short and taken from us so easily

You all truly will be missed by so many

We are grateful for knowing you 

And lucky to have been part of your lives

We know that Heaven’s gates

Have been opened up for you

The Angel’s have given you your wings

So that you all may watch over us

And push us so we may strive to do better things

A poem by Elizabeth Mooney

This song is in your memory… Every time I hear it it will remind me of you 😦
You will forever be missed. Love always Your Friend.

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Happy 17th Birthday to My Son ❤️

 

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Turning another year older, but in my heart, you will always be my little boy. I am so proud of the man you have become. I wish you continued success in the year ahead.

I wish you strength to face life’s challenges;
Knowledge to achieve your desired successes;
Hope to get back up when life knocks you down;
Good family and friends to share your accomplishments with;
New adventures to greet you at every turn;
And love to fill your heart so big there is no room for negativity.

Know that I will always be by your side to support you, love you, and cheer you on.  May this day, and all the days before you be filled with joy, peace, and prosperity.

❤️ I love you, mom ❤️

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8 things you should absolutely never, ever share on Facebook

8 things you should absolutely never, ever share on Facebook

While Facebook is a fun place to share and post, leave these things off of it.
  • For the most part, Facebook is a great tool. It allows us to stay in touch with friends, share information and ideas and even stay on top of the latest news stories. But Facebook has its share of cons as well. It can spread rumors, stir up trouble, and be a place where people with not-so-nice intentions lurk. With that in mind, here are eight things you should never share on Facebook.
  • 1. Your relationship troubles

    It is dangerous to post about fights you’ve had, things that bother you or even more serious news (like you are considering a divorce or separation) on Facebook. While it may be your way of reaching out for support and friendship, it can be very damaging. Your friends are only seeing your side of the story, and most importantly, they miss the make-up story afterward. They do not get to go through the forgiveness/apology side of the story, and may not understand why you are still with someone who you were so upset with just hours before.

    It can also really hurt your significant other when they see what you said about them on social media. Would you want them saying something similar about you? Keep your private life private. We all have flaws, and we make mistakes. But that doesn’t mean our mistakes have to be told to the world via Facebook. Remember, once it is put out there, it cannot be taken back.

  • 2. Naked baby photos

    While naked baby photos can be super innocent and adorable, they are not something that should be shared on Facebook. There are too many people out there with bad intentions, and they can use your photos for not-so-innocent things. If you do put photos of your little ones taking a bath or something else totally cute while naked, there are some stickers you can use to cover up any parts that may be showing. Remember to always use caution when posting these types of photos.

  • 3. Embarrassing stories about someone else

    If you want to share something embarrassing that happened to you, go for it! The more embarrassing, the better. But when it comes to saying something embarrassing about someone else, whether it be your spouse, friends or children, it’s best not to, unless they give you their permission. While it may be a funny story, they may not be comfortable with you sharing it. They may not want the Facebook world to know about their mishap or mistake.

    When it comes to posting embarrassing stories about your own kids, try to see into the future. While it may be funny now, years from now, when they are teenagers or adults, they may not want their friends pulling up the story about how they wet their pants in the middle of a Wal-Mart. Consider sharing the stories on your own personal private blog instead, or with your close friends verbally; don’t put it on Facebook.

  • 4. Your address/personal information

    I am always surprised when I see someone post a picture of their new driver’s license, or when they leave their phone number in a comments thread. Anyone can access that information, and now they know where you live and how to reach you. It may seem a little paranoid or overly cautious, but giving out your personal information on a Facebook thread may come back to haunt you later.

  • 5. Put-downs

    Our world is full of negativity; why add to it? If you are upset about what someone named their baby, or what color a neighbor painted their house, do you really think posting your opinion on Facebook is going to help the situation? It only spreads more negativity and hatred. People really do read those comments — even the person they are about, and they can really hurt. You may think it is your place to give your opinion, but unless you were asked for it, it’s not. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

  • 6. Gross photos

    Some people think injury photos or that picture of the mold growing on your bread is totally cool. But for others, it is really gross and may cause negative side-effects, like throwing up or even fainting. Sure, it’s your photo and your Facebook account, but photos come up automatically on someone else’s feed, and they may not have the chance to scroll by without seeing it.

  • 7. Something you don’t want everyone to see

    If you really hate your job, or lied about being sick when you were really at a concert, it probably is not a good idea to post about it on Facebook. It will come back to bite you. Several jobs have been lost over people posting about how much they hate their boss or really dislike going to work. And whoever you lied to will see the 67 photos you posted of the great time you had when they thought you were home sick in bed. Even if you hide your posts from someone, there is always a chance they might see it.

  • 8. Someone else’s news

    There are things that people may not want put on Facebook; like the fact that they are pregnant, moving, getting married or other big news. If you want to congratulate someone, send them a private message. Unless they have made a huge announcement, changed their profile picture to reflect their news and made it very clear they are willing to talk about it on social media, do not post about it. It is their news to share, not yours. Who knows — they may not be posting about it for a reason that you do not know about. Respect that.

    While these posts may seem innocent, they can really hurt you or someone else. Use caution when posting online — think before you share.

Megan Shauri
Megan Shauri graduated with a bachelors in anthropology and a masters in psychology. She is a mother of twins.
Website: Meganshauri@gmail.com
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Powerbeats 2 Wireless #ReviewWithElly

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Powerbeats 2 Wireless In-Ear Headphone – Black-(Certified Refurbished)

 

The earphones are sweatproof, but not waterproof and come in white, red, and the black. They have the ear hooks that help keep the headphones securely on your head. These new hooks have some bend to them and you can customize the shape to fit around your ear better. I got the headphones to fit pretty snugly — overall I liked the way they fit, and you can adjust the cord length with the little crimp that’s included.

The headphones come in a few different sizes of silicone ear tips. They aren’t meant to be jammed in your ears like many in-ear models. The headphone also doubles as a headset.

A three-button inline remote and microphone are built into the cord for making hands-free calls. If you have an iOS device such as an iPhone or Ipad, you can skip tracks forward and back and adjust volume. However, if you have a Windows or Android phone, you can only adjust the volume and use the middle button to answer and end calls. (In other words, this is a “Made for iPhone” headphone.)

Unfortunately, the headphone doesn’t automatically shut off when disconnected from your phone’s Bluetooth. I think it should, particularly at this price point.

From a sound standpoint, as I said, despite the inability to get a tight seal, I thought it performed well for a Bluetooth headphone. It plays loudly and has relatively clean, aggressive sound.

The only problem, of course, is that they’re expensive. At $169, you’d like to see an automatic shutoff feature and perhaps full waterproofing rather than just sweatproofing.

They are not durable, broke apart and I had to return in less than 90 days. In the end, I will not be recommending the Beats Powerbeats2 Wireless.

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6 things you should never say to someone with depression

6 things you should never say to someone with depression

Chances are, you know someone struggling with depression. If you want to help instead of hurting, avoid these six common mistakes.
  • 1. “Get over it”

    Depression is a serious matter that is not always easily dealt with. Getting professional treatment in a number of modalities, including prescription medication, therapy and even alternative treatments can help, but saying this won’t make anything better.

  • 2. “It’s not that bad”

    You don’t know how bad it is to them. The event that triggered the depression may not seem significant on the surface, but depression could be doing major damage on the inside once it has taken root. Try not to undermine or minimize how someone feels if you can’t understand what she’s going through.

  • 3. “You’re weak”

    Illness is not weakness. And projecting an ableist attitude onto someone who is suffering shows a lack of compassion and understanding that only makes you appear weak in character. Although a person may feel weak due to his ailment, calling him so will not give him strength.

  • 4. “Stop whining”

    Shaming a person with a psychological disorder is cruel and can cause further damage. Yes, constantly reinforcing the feelings he wants to rid himself of seems illogical and can be irritating, but it comes from a feeling of helplessness. As humans, we tend to express what we feel the most. If he were happy, he would be expressing that instead.

  • 5. “I got over it”

    What works for you will not work for everyone. Another’s experience with depression or its inciting events may be quite different from yours. Everyone has his own predispositions, chemical makeup and personal history, making for a unique treatment and healing plan. Plus, getting over something doesn’t mean you got through it. You may have put something behind you, but if it’s not entirely resolved, it could resurface and rear its ugly head again.

  • 6. “You’ll be fine”

    Be careful using these words. It can appear dismissive, uncaring or cold if said in the wrong way. Keep eye contact, smile kindly, and if you are close enough with the person, reach out and give him a warm hug and firm pat on the shoulder or back when saying this. If you believe he will get through this, let him know you mean it.

    Remember to keep your feelings about life and all of its ups and downs in perspective when addressing someone with depression. Even if you see a simple solution, a depressed person may see hopelessness and nothing in her future. Keep communication open and the bonds strong in your spiritual and biological family. This is the time your loved one needs you the most.

Georgia D. Lee seeks to empower, inspire, enrich and educate anyone with an open mind, heart and spirit through her most treasured medium – black and white!
Website: http://authorgeorgiadlee.weebly.com
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Natural Arabica Coffee Scrub #ReviewWithElly

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100% Natural Arabica Coffee Scrub 12 oz. with Organic Coffee, Coconut and Shea Butter – Best Acne, Anti Cellulite and Stretch Mark treatment, Spider Vein Therapy for Varicose Veins & Eczema (Misc.)
Received package on time
Packaged with plenty of padding
Container was properly sealed and not leakingI tried the 100% Natural Arabica Coffee Scrub for about 2 weeks now. As you can see in my Photos the product is almost gone.
This scrub smells SO good! If you love the smell of freshly brewed coffee this is perfect for you.
The Coffee Body Scrub is loaded with antioxidants, the description states it helps to fight premature skin aging like wrinkles, sun spots, and fine lines. When applied under and around the eyes, it can help in minimizing the appearance of puffy eyes as caffeine restricts blood vessels, which reduces swelling and inflammation. It can also help lighten dark circles under the eyes.

I have used this on my face every single day. Although I didn’t see any difference as far as the appearance of the puffy eyes and dark circles.

I did notice a BIG difference in my pores and black heads completely clean and gone.
My face is as clear as it ever was, smooth and acne free.
It does say the product is 100% Natural exfoliating scrub & acne treatment.
I stand by that statement 100% they are correct.
It helps remove dirt, giving you a fresh, younger more moisturized skin.
The Coffee grounds in this scrub acts as a mechanical exfoliation that helps to scrub away dead skin to reveal the new, healthy skin underneath and as a chemical Exfoliator removing skin cells with enzymes or acidic properties. It provided my skin with a more glowing and radiant appearance upon 1st use.
All I did was Gently massage scrub in a circular motion in the bath or shower, rinse well. Your skin will have a fine film of oil, do not worry, just gently pat your skin dry to leave it feeling super smooth and soft!

I also noticed it says on the bottle it GETs RID OF CELLULITE: By combining the best quality of organic coffee grounds with moisturizing, skin-soothing organic coconut oil and dead sea salt for an extra exfoliating kick.

I applied the product everyday for two weeks to my belly, legs and arms and it did NOT reduce the appearance of cellulite.
This product also did NOT target any of my stretch marks.
There for I would have to say It is not very effective for stretch mark removal.
How ever it does soften skin as it scrubs away dirt and dead skin cells.
This formula also contains skin-loving Coconut Oil, Olive oil, Shea Butter, Sweet Almond Oil, Grape Seed Oil making this aromatic exfoliating scrub a luxurious staple in any skin care regime.

Benefits of using this Scrub:
Exfoliates your skin
Super Hydration

Instead of using body scrubs with harsh chemicals, I would defiantly recommend using the coffee to scrub that combines coffee grounds with salt, sugar, and oils that leave your skin nourished and moisturized rather than just cleansed.

My Honest review on this product I loved it. Even though it didn’t remove my stretch marks or the cellulite. It’s the best Exfoliator I have ever used and for this price it’s a bargain. Also, just because it didn’t work for me. it doesn’t mean it won’t work for you.

Why waste money in high-priced spa treatments? Indulge in this coffee grounds facial scrub to soften the delicate skin on your face.

Organic Kona Coffee, Coffee Arabica Seed Oil, Dead Sea Salt Granules, Organic Coconut Extract, Dead Sea Salt, Organic Olive Oil,Organic Sweet Almond Oil, Organic Grape Seed Oil, Cacao Extract, Organic Shea Butter

I have received this product at a discount in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.

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10 things parents need to know about their highly sensitive child

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10 things parents need to know about their highly sensitive child
Having a highly sensitive child can be a trying, confusing time. But these 10 insights into your sensitive child’s life can make the challenge a little easier to tackle.

High sensitivity (also known as sensory processing sensitivity) is a personality trait seen in about 20 percent of adults; and needless to say, all adults start out as kids. Your sensitive kid is very likely a typical kid, but one who needs some special attention and care.

Common characteristics of a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC) include being:

Highly emotional
Sensitive to tastes and smells
Sensitive to physical touch
Sensitive to fabrics and/or cuts of clothing
Sensitive to irritants (highly reactive to chemicals, dyes, additives, stings, bites, scratches, etc.)
Sensitive to light and sound (especially fluorescent lights, and loud and very quiet noises)
Affected greatly by the feelings of others (especially negative feelings)
To understand your Highly Sensitive Child’s (HSC) feelings and needs, consider these 10 realities of your child’s life:
1. Your HSC feels everything more intensely

So frustration sounds like screaming, screaming feels like a slap, and a slap feels like a punch. Everything, especially negative things, are felt more intensely and will leave a lasting impression on your HSC. Your HSC may cower and withdraw from you long after an incident if they feel threatened by something you barely remember.

2. Your HSC can appear emotionally unstable or imbalanced

He may simply switch from one end of the emotional spectrum to another. He can go from highly excitable, to the point of hyper, to extremely upset and crying in an instant. Whatever he feels he feels deeply, in that moment.

3. Be conscious of how you behave toward and in front of your HSC

He will take things personally and internalize his treatment. Punishment needs to be adjusted to fit your child individually, and used to teach and correct him rather than inflict suffering.

4. Your HSC is susceptible to psychological problems like depression and anxiety

Being sensitive means your child is likely to get negative feedback from his family and peers and be criticized for his sensitivity, then feel that negative interaction deeply. Likewise, growing up in an abusive or neglectful environment leads to problems at a higher rate in these children than their peers.

5. Your HSC is highly susceptible to stress related issues and illnesses

Headaches, stomach aches, digestion issues, and more are just some of these illnesses. Constant stimulation and agitation is bad for the body, so these kids often need more medical attention.

6. Your HSC needs to be protected from bullying at all costs!

Bullying is difficult for any kid, but can be detrimental to the development of your sensitive child. Make sure he gets the TLC he needs and leave no room for bullying in his world.

7. Your HSC lives in the moment

When things are bad, the world is bad. When things are good, nothing else matters. So try to keep his world happy and positive as much as you can.

8. Your HSC needs to be heard and understood

So when he speaks, listen. If he feels ignored, he will internalize this to mean he is not valued, worthless, and his feelings don’t matter.

9. Never tell your HSC to stop being sensitive

You are asking him to change his fundamental makeup, and reinforcing his feelings of being different, unvalued and worthless. You are telling him who he is, is not okay. You can, however, encourage resilience at a pace he is comfortable with.

10. Seek help for your HSC if you feel like you can’t handle things on your own

Now recognized as fairly common, kids and adults with high sensitivity are more susceptible to subtle stimuli but process and use it normally. Unlike sensory processing sensitivity, sensory processingdisorder is much less common and the causes incorrect identification and response to normal stimuli. Your child may have either or both the sensitivity and the disorder. But in any case, your kid will need special care and attention, and a lot of understanding.

Although it can cause great challenges in the lives of those it affects, and even more around them, sensory-processing sensitivity is not a disorder; it’s who your child is. And sensitive kids are awesome kids.

 

Georgia D. Lee seeks to empower, inspire, enrich and educate anyone with an open mind, heart and spirit through her most treasured medium – black and white!
Website: http://authorgeorgiadlee.weebly.com www.familyshare.com
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#Review WithElly ORGANIC Argan Oil

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BEST ORGANIC Argan Oil for Hair, Face, Skin, and Nails – 100% Pure Certified Organic Argan Oil – GUARANTEED to Provide Beautifully Healthy, Nutrient-Rich Moisture… Known as Liquid Gold for the HUGE list of Uses & Benefits – Anti-Aging, Vitamin E – Cold Pressed, Unrefined, Virgin, Eco Cert & USDA Certified Organic – Use Alone or Infuse Moisturizers, Lotions, Serums and More! Purchase backed by Amazing Guarantee 2oz (Misc.)

Foxbrim. 100% Pure Organic Argan Oil.
Foxbrim proudly provides you the freshest argan oil available. Unrefined,
Certified Organic, Cold Pressed, and Virgin Argan Oil.
Doesn’t aggravate your skin.
Abundant in fatty acids, Vitamin E, and antioxidants.
Extremely fresh and long-lasting. This oil is the best moisturizer out there.
I tried all the methods recommended to me.

Overnight Hair Treatment – I Applied 4-5 drops starting from the scalp to the end of my hair. Wrapped my hair in a shower cap leaving the oil in while I was asleep next day washed it out and styled.

Face Moisturizer – was my favorite did it every day Placed 2 to 3 drops onto the tips of my fingers. Rubbed to spread over fingertips and then applied. Also used as a moisturizer for my arms and legs.

Hair Glow & Shine – All I needed was 4 to 5 drops massaged into the hands it was perfect.

Need to try the Lip Moisturizer suggestion using the oil- Lightly massage a drop or two onto lips.
No doubt I recommend this oil for everyone or anyone with any type of skin or hair. you won’t regret it.
I will most definitely be buying this again due to the high quality.

I have received this product at a discount in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.

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INTERNET SAFETY #Parenting #kids #Pbloggers

This was shared on the Police of EB website and I wanted to share here on my blog.
I though the story was amazing. Every kid should read it and learn from it.

Never publicly post in ANY online forum any personally identifiable information. What is personally identifiable information? It’s any personal information that could be used to find or identify you in real life. This could be such information as your real name, address, telephone number, cell number, your sports team, health club, or links to websites or other profiles that might give this information away.

Even without meaning to, you can give this information away by taking a picture in front of your car with your license plate, home address, workplace, school, etc showing in the photo. You may be wearing a school or team t-shirt, a scout uniform or baseball cap that might give away ways of finding you offline. This information could be misused to steal your identity, guess your passwords, cyber stalk, cyber bully or harass you or by predators who really want to hurt you.

Always keep in mind that some individuals will maintain contact with the intent to glean as many small bits of information as possible. When viewed as a whole, these seemingly innocuous facts can used to determine a prospective victim’s actual location. They may use multiple screen names and user profiles, pretending to be other people, to gather more information from someone who might not be willing to continue talking to a stranger beyond a few conversations.

An easy guide for kids and teens is to tell them never to post anything that their parents and principal shouldn’t see.

On a related note, NEVER post any information or pictures that you would NOT want to be broadcast to the entire world. Remember, once you hit that send button, you will have virtually NO control over how this information will be used, or who may end up viewing it. A typical scenario involves one member persuading another to send them sexually explicit pictures of themselves. This can eventually lead to threats of publishing the pictures Internet-wide, or forwarding them to a victim’s friends, coworkers, and family members. Can you even imagine the level of embarrassment you may be forced to suffer?

NEVER give personal information to anyone you have not met in person. While it is human nature to want to know about the other person, their name, age, what they look like, where they live, this information is not needed to carry on a conversation. If someone presses you for this type of information, back away! Especially if the requests come early in your relationship. Most users with legitimate intentions will realize WHY you are reluctant to tell them, and will respect your desire to play it safe.

NEVER agree to meet someone you have only met online unless you have a mutual friend that could possibly vouch for them.

If you are under the age of 18 NEVER meet up with someone you have only met online unless your parents not only know who this person is, but agree to go along with you to the meeting.

If you feel you just must meet a new online acquaintance, NEVER go alone, and ALWAYS meet in a very public place like a popular coffee shop, a busy shopping mall, or similar place.

Choose your screen name carefully. Never include your real name, or any elements of it. Choose something fun, yet gender neutral. You may think that having a risqué screen name is cute, but be advised, you will attract the type of people your screen name appeals to. A screen name such as “Panda” is much less provocative than “SexMagnet”. And much less offensive to many of your fellow netizens.

Resist the urge to ‘tell people off’ or engage in ‘flame wars’. People come in all temperaments, and as in real life, there are those who will try to provoke you into an argument. This type of activity is becoming all too common online these days. Many people feel power through the anonymity that the keyboard gives them. Therefore, if you encounter someone who is rude in online chats, ignore them, back away! Most importantly, resist the urge to strike back at them. This type of person craves the attention their behavior brings them. Deprived of this attention, most either quit acting like jerks, or else move on. Either way, you have avoided a confrontation that can quickly escalate into a full-fledged harassment situation.

Remember your Netiquette and be nice!

Interesting Internet Safety Story

Something to think about.

Shannon could hear the footsteps behind her as she walked toward home. The thought of being followed made her heart beat faster. “You’re being silly,” she told herself, “no one is following you.”  To be safe she began to walk faster, but the footsteps kept up with her pace. She was afraid to look back and she was glad she was almost home. Shannon said a quick prayer, “God please get me home safe.” She saw the porch light burning and ran the rest of the way to her house. Once inside she leaned against the door for a moment, relieved to be in the safety of her home. She glanced out the window to see if anyone was there.  The sidewalk was empty.

After tossing her books on the sofa she decided to grab a snack and get on-line.  There she could talk to strangers without being afraid.  After all, no one knew who she really was and couldn’t hurt her.  She logged on under her screen name ByAngel213.   Checking her Buddy List she saw GoTo123 was on. She sent him an instant message:

ByAngel213:   Hi I’m glad you are on!   I thought someone was following me home today.   It was really weird!

GoTo123:   LOL   you watch too much TV.  Why would someone be following you?  Don’t you live in a safe neighborhood?

ByAngel213:   Of course I do LOL   I guess it was my imagination cause I didn’t see anybody when I looked out.

GoTo123:  Unless you gave your name out on line.  You haven’t done that have you?

ByAngel213:  Of course not.  I’m not stupid you know.

GoTo123:   Did you have a softball game after school today?

ByAngel213:   Yes and we won!

GoTo123:  That’s great! Who did you play?

ByAngel213:   We played the Hornets LOL.  Their uniforms are so gross!  They look like bees LOL

GoTo123:  What is your team called?

ByAngel213:  We are the Brockton Boxers.   Our colors are red and black and we have a bull dog on our uniforms.    They are really kewl.

GoTo123:  Do you pitch or what?

ByAngel213:   No I play second   base.   I got to go.   My homework has to be done before my parents get home.  I don’t want them mad at me.  Bye

GoTo123:  Catch you later.  Bye

GoTo123 decided it was time to teach Angel a   lesson.  One she would never forget.

He went to the member menu and began to search for her profile.   When it came up he highlighted it and printed it out.  He took   out a pen and began to write down what he knew about Angel so far.

Her name: Shannon

Birthday:   Jan. 3, 1986 age 13

State where she lived: Massachusetts

Hobbies: softball, chorus, skating and going to the mall.

Besides this information he knew she lived in Brockton.  She had just told him.  He knew she stayed by herself until 6:30 every afternoon until her parents came home from work. He knew she played softball on Thursday afternoons on the school team and the team was named the Boxers.  Her favorite number 7 was printed on her jersey. He knew she was in the seventh grade at a Brockton Junior High School.  She had told him all this in the conversations they had on line. He had enough information to find her now. “She’ll be so surprised” he thought, “she doesn’t even know what she has done.”

Shannon didn’t tell her parents about the incident on the way home from the ball park that day. She didn’t want them to make a scene and stop her from walking home from the softball games. Parents were always overreacting and hers were the worst. It made her wish she was not an only child. Maybe if she had brothers and sisters her parents wouldn’t be so overprotective.

By Thursday Shannon had forgotten about the footsteps following her. Her game was in full swing when suddenly she felt someone staring at her. It was then that the memory came back.  She glanced up from her second base position to see a man watching her closely. He was leaning against the fence behind first base and he smiled when she looked at him. He didn’t look scary and she quickly dismissed the fear she had felt.  After the game he sat on a bleacher while she talked to the coach. She noticed his smile once again as she walked past him. He nodded and she smiled back. He noticed her name on back of the shirt.  He knew he had found her. Quietly he walked a safe distance behind her.

He didn’t want to frighten her and have to explain what he was doing to anyone. It was only a few blocks to Shannon’s home and once he saw where she lived. He quickly returned to the park to get his car.  Now he had to wait.  He decided to get a bite to eat until the time came to go to Shannon’s house. He drove to a fast food restaurant and sat there until time to make his move.

Shannon was in her room later that evening when she heard voices in the living room.  “Shannon, come here” her father called. He sounded upset and she couldn’t imagine why. She went into the room to see the man from the ballpark sitting on the sofa. “Sit down,” her father began, “this man is a policeman and he has just told us a most interesting story about you.”  Shannon moved cautiously to a chair across from the man. How could he tell her parents anything? She had never seen him before today! “Do you know who I am Shannon?”   The man asked.  “No” Shannon   answered. “I am your online friend, GoTo123.” Shannon was stunned.  “That’s   impossible! GoTo is a kid my age! He’s 14 and he lives in Michigan!”  The man smiled. “I know I told you all that but it wasn’ t true. You see Shannon there are people on line who pretend to be kids; I was one of them.  But while others do it to find kids and hurt them, I belong to a group of parents who do it to protect kids from predators.  I came here to find you to teach you how dangerous it is to give out too much information to people on line. You told me enough about yourself to make it easy for me to find you. Your name, the school you went to, the name of your ball team and the position you played. The number and name on your jersey just made finding you a breeze.”

Shannon was stunned.  “You mean you don’t live in Michigan?” He laughed. “No, I live in Brockton. It made you feel safe to think I was so far away, didn’t   it?”  She nodded.   “I had a friend whose daughter was like you. Only she wasn’t as lucky.  The guy found her and attempted to abduct her while she was home alone. Kids are taught not to tell anyone when they are alone, yet they do it all the time on-line.  The wrong people trick you into giving out information a little here and there on-line.  Before you know it, you have told them enough for them to find you without even realizing you have done it.  I hope you’ve learned a lesson from this and won’t do it again.”

“I won’t,” Shannon promised solemnly.

“Will you tell others about this so they will be safe too?”

“It’s a promise!”

That night Shannon and her parents had a long conversation about her Internet experience and online friends.  They worked out a set of ground rules both Shannon and her parents felt comfortable with.  They all agreed that this time they were lucky.   If the person who tracked down Shannon was not a police officer, the results could have lead to a scary and possibly tragic situation. Remember the potential danger of giving away too much information about yourself.  The world we live in is too dangerous to even give out your age, let alone any other information that may be used to trace who you really are and where to find you.

Be Smart.  Be Safe!

*This story was adapted from the original “Shannon” story posted to the internet, author unknown.

MORE TO COME………

© 2011 East Bridgewater Police Department

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How to recognize emotional abuse

How to recognize emotional abuse

Ways to tell if you are in an abusive relationship. On either side. And what to do about it.
  • Emotional abuse has many definitions but is best characterized by typical patterns of behavior and relationship dynamics. Emotional abuse tends to revolve around a power imbalance, where at least one person in the relationship seeks psychological and sometimes physical control of another. But on its own, emotional abuse does not involve physical aggression. Interestingly, although it often is, this abuse is not always conscious, obvious, or intentional. Someone brought up in an emotionally abusive environment may not recognize their own abusive ways. Or they may not recognize the abuse they suffered as valid. Someone may also confuse control with care and see their domineering or invasive attitude as not only appropriate and necessary, but as a sign of affection. Emotional abuse in relationships and marriages can be characterized in two ways. The more aggressive form of emotional abuse is overt and leaves you with an explicit understanding of the experience. You know what they think, feel and say about you, as do the other people in your life. The more passive form of emotional abuse is less about domination, and more about needling. Small, seemingly insignificant digs or corrections that build up into somewhat of a master and subordinate relationship over time. And you may not ever truly know what the abuser really thinks, feels or says about you — or even what the abuse is doing to you. So how do you know if your spouse, partner, or someone else in your life is emotionally abusive?
  • More aggressive signs of emotional abuse

  • Name calling

    She might use name calling, whether during an argument, as a reprimand, or as a regular course of life, is childish and disrespectful. You are not stupid, worthless, ugly, or any other degrading name.

  • Belittling and condescension

    You’re always beneath him. He needs to make you and your accomplishments worthless and insignificant. And he may inflict embarrassment in front of people who care for and respect you.

  • Condemnation and criticism

    You can’t do anything right. You are wrong no matter what. You’re a bad person, parent, friend, follower. You name it. Or at the very least, you’re not as good, or as good at it, as she is.

  • Control and possessiveness

    He micromanages your day, whereabouts, appearance or priorities. You can’t go anywhere without him, without his permission, or without informing him first. If you do, there’s a long lecture or intense fight to come.

  • Accusations and paranoia

    Accusations of infidelity are the most typical. But the accusations may be as outlandish as cheating with a friend, family member or for money. She might accuse you of stealing from her, or even trying to harm her or your children.

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  • Threats

    He might threaten violence, humiliation or abandonment, which silences objections to the torturous treatment.

  • Manipulation and corruption

    She will push an agenda that only benefits or pleases her. Or one that is detrimental or offensive to you. She will often convince you to comply, or come up with the idea that appears to be your own, but isn’t.

  • Bribery and extortion

    He will use a secret, such as the abuse itself, for example, as a means to continue and escalate control.

  • Isolation

    She Keeps you from friends, family, co-workers, and others who care about your health and well-being, and really anyone else in the world. This helps maintain her control. The only person you need is her.

  • Exhibition and voyeurism

    He flaunts his abusive ways, freedom and independence, and even his affairs, in front of you and others. He may watch you suffer through his control and humiliation, and invite others into it. Hi might stand over you and film you as you scrub the floor on your hands and knees.

  • More passive signs of emotional abuse

  • Guilt and shame

    She tries to make you feel bad about something that is really out of your control. When things go wrong, and they always do, it’s always you. And even if you try your best to keep things together, or fix them, your effort is still not up to par.

  • Blame

    The problem is all you, and he does nothing wrong. You deserve the way he, and others, treat you. Again, you’re responsible for what is in another’s hands.

  • Comparison and disapproval

    You are not good enough the way you are. You need to change. Or you need to be more like someone else. And even then, this probably won’t be good enough.

  • Correction

    Mistakes are forbidden. She makes the rules and decides when and how you break them. Warranted or not, she will find something you did wrong and let you know about it.

  • Gossip

    He speaks negatively or pityingly about you behind your back. Especially to other people who respect you to degrade their opinion of you, or to people who already view you negatively, adding fuel to the fire.

  • Sabotage

    She overtly or discretely discredits, refuse to assist, or hinders you and your accomplishments.

  • Ignoring

    He uses the silent treatment. Usually administered as a punishment for doing, saying, or even thinking or being something he disapproves of.

  • Rejection and neglect

    She willfully withholds love, affection, support, intimacy, quality time or any relationship need.

  • Crowding and imposition

    He is a constant intrusion into your life, and even the lives of others around you. He wants complete access. He always needs you to be near him, in contact with him, or readily available to him. He tells you what you should and should not do. He asks your friends, family, co-workers or even employers about every detail of your life.

    If you think you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, seek professional help. Or, at the very least, talk to someone you trust about it. Go on-line and researchwhat it is, what it looks and feels like, and how to stop it. Decide that you deserve to be in a healthy, happy relationship. Work toward building that relationship with whoever wants to build it with you.

Georgia Lee
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