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6 things to do when you’re losing a wayward child #parenting

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  • They may be your literal flesh and blood, but that doesn’t mean your children will embrace your values or your rules. Finding yourself challenged with a wayward child can be heart-wrenching, and often makes you second-guess not only yourself but your parenting strategies as well. If you want to get your child back, it’s important not to lose hope. You can do more than you think.

  • Don’t blame yourself

    From acting up in kindergarten to sneaking out in high school, parents have a tendency to blame their children’s behavior on themselves. But taking on that kind of guilt won’t help your child find the right path, and nor will it help you deal healthily with the situation at hand. Not only does blaming yourself make you feel bad, but it also sends your child the message that he doesn’t need to be accountable for his actions. According to Empower Parents, when a parent blames himself, “the child gets the message that he’s not responsible for his own behavior and choices-his parents are. Unfortunately, this can lead to a lifetime pattern of blaming others and refusing to take responsibility. It will always be his spouse’s fault, the boss’s fault, the police officer’s fault, or the legal system’s fault.”

  • Stick to your values

    When you’re a parent, you’re charged with the responsibility of teaching your child morals and ethics, however you view them. But when your child becomes wayward, she will challenge these values to the very core. Whether these morals come from a religious or secular place, it’s critical that you show your child consistency in what you view as acceptable and unacceptable behavior. For example, if you’ve taught your child that underage drinking is wrong, don’t try to mitigate the risks of the behavior by allowing him to drink in your presence.

  • Love unconditionally

    It goes without saying that parents love their children unconditionally, but when you’ve got a wayward child, she can definitely try those feelings. While practicing unconditional love is easier in theory than in practice, it’s important if you’re trying to lead a wayward child back to the family fold. According to Aha! Parenting, “unconditional love is like a muscle. It needs a daily workout. Compassion is the heavy lifting of life.” If you don’t feel like you’re in the habit of loving your child unconditionally, don’t worry, it’s still possible to achieve it.

  • Let them be them

    When you see your child going down an undesirable path, your first reflex might be to take control. For example, when your son begins hanging out with a less-than-reputable crowd, it might be tempting to force him into soccer or football to keep him occupied after school and help him meet new friends. Psychology Todayadvises:

    “When we do that – that is, parent our children according to our own requirements, desires, or standards of how things ‘should be’ – we often deprive them of developing a solid sense of self. We stifle their innate creativity and urges. What’s more, we may subconsciously deliver the message that they will only earn our love by being just like us.”

  • Fight with them

    Fighting with them doesn’t mean you should go around arguing, screaming or bickering at your child. The fact of the matter is, many wayward children are facing some difficult demons, whether those are substance abuse, addictions, eating disorders, bullying or abuse. Any of those issues could be making your child feel isolated and hopeless. As parents, you’ll do anything to help your child find happiness and peace, and that will likely require a fight. Your child may not have the strength to face her demons, but when you join in the fight, your whole family will be stronger for it. And it will show your child that you’re in this with them, which may help bolster their hope and motivation.

  • Invade their space

    Giving your child his space and hoping he’ll make the right decisions on his own might sound enlightened in theory, but in practice, a laissez-faire parenting approach rarely works. That’s why it’s so important to monitor your child’s behavior and correct it when it needs correcting. For example, don’t allow your wayward child carte blanche access to the internet or social media when you think she’s sending or receiving explicit posts. Monitoring your child’s behaviorisn’t an invasion of privacy. It’s your duty.

    If you want to become more involved in your child’s life, WebSafety offers an easy-to-use app that helps you keep tabs on your children’s online and cellular activity.

 

 

 

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10 cancer symptoms that most people ignore

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10 cancer symptoms that most people ignore

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Are you ignoring these warnings your body is giving you?
  • Medicine has developed fantastically in recent years, finding new drugs that help with the control of various diseases that once haunted, and even killed.

    But despite medical advancement, prevention is key to maintaining our health and fighting diseases early.

    Good use of medicine is another important factor. Misuse of it can also cause harmful symptoms.

    Cancer, a disease that scares many people, has a greater chance of cure when treated early. It stops being so scary when we periodically take preventive tests.

    We must carefully watch every day, as different symptoms may indicate that something is not quite right, and there is need for medical help.

    Because cancer can attack various parts of the body, it is crucial to pay attention to our bodies. Below are 10 cancer warning signs.

  • 1. Frequent cough

    Frequent coughing can simply be a sign of allergies — but when the cough is very persistent you may want to consider seeking the opinion of a specialist. Even non- smokers can develop throat, larynx and lung cancer. Therese Bartholomew Bevers, MD of the MD Anderson Cancer Center, said that “Most coughs are not cancer, but a persistent cough needs to be evaluated because it can be a symptom of lung cancer.”

  • 2. Weight loss without dieting

    Though losing weight is the dream of many women, without dieting it can be the indicator of a disease. Look out for sudden weight gain as well.

  • 3. Frequent pain in the joints

    Joint pain is one of the symptoms of bone cancer, whether it is frequent or not. Getting headaches does not mean you have a brain tumor, but it’s always nice to closely evaluate them. Many ovarian cancers are diagnosed after persistent abdominal pain. And lung cancer can be spotted from chest pains.

  • 4. Fatigue without apparent cause

    Being overly tired for no apparent reason can be a sign of the blood cancer Leukemia. Being aware of changes like this in your body can save your life.

  • 5. Jaundice

    When jaundice, the yellowing of skin most commonly seen in babies, appears in adults, it may be a sign of liver problems, including cancer.

  • 6. Dark spots and freckles that change color and size

    It is never a bad idea to have freckles and moles checked periodically. Also, all new dark spots on the skin should be examined. Skin cancer can be detected precisely from these spots.

  • 7. Eye pain that persists

    Pain in the eye, a symptom of eye cancer, can easily be mistaken as a result of being tired. If pain persists, consult a doctor immediately.

  • 8. Discharges with or without blood

    Discharges of different color and odor should also be investigated. Vaginal bleeding outside the menstrual period may indicate cervical cancer. Check in with your gynecologist at least once a year.

  • 9. Hoarseness

    Hoarseness can be started by the swelling of the vocal cords caused by a more serious problem, and could be a cancer indicator.

  • 10. Diarrhea and bleeding

    A diseased intestine can cause bowel changes.

    Do not be terrified every time you notice any symptoms, such as those mentioned above. Remember that many of these things are also common symptoms of other illnesses and things we encounter on a daily basis. However, if any of these symptoms persists longer than normal, it is always smart to check it out. It could save your life.

    This article is a translation and adaption of the original article “10 sintomas de câncer que a maioria das pessoas ignora”
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5 tips on fighting fair with your teen

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5 tips on fighting fair with your teen

Fights with your moody teenagers are inevitable, but here are a few things to remember when a battle breaks out.
  • Teenagers can be terrors, and battles are bound to break out. But not every argument has to be a free-for-all fight. It may seem fitting to make sure your little one knows who’s boss in your home, but it’s important to remember that your kids are still growing, and how you handle arguments with them will teach them how to handle arguments with others. You are a model for your son’s behavior, and you’re teaching your daughter what to expect from the world. So when frustrations rise and tensions boil over, remember this important advice about fights:

  • 1. Words hurt, and cannot be taken back

    You can’t un-ring a bell; and you can’t take back hurtful words you say to your child. You may instantly forget what is spewed in a fray, but the worse it was, the longer your child will remember. No matter how bad the conflict seems, your son or daughter needs to know you’ll still be there for him or her once the battle is over and the smoke has cleared. That bond and trust can easily be broken when he or she has to forget something terrible you’ve said to rebuild your relationship.

  • 2. Your child will remember things you forget

    It’s not just words you must be careful of in fights; your actions can also speak loudly. Acting aggressively toward your son or daughter – lunging, chasing, grabbing or raising a fist – is unnecessary. And needless to say, making contact in this manner is entirely inappropriate. If your teen loses control and attacks you, your job is to restrain and de-escalate — never to retaliate. Likewise, leaving your child in a fight, either at home or stranded somewhere, will leave him feeling abandoned. Be present and available, even in conflict. And see your fight through until its resolution.

  • 3. You are the adult, and you are in control

    Not of your son, but of yourself. He is growing into an independent person with a mind of his own, and no amount of punishment, rage or belittling is going to turn him into who or what you want him to be. He has to find that for himself. But the best way to encourage this is to show him how to be someone you would want him to be; especially in times of crisis.

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  • 4. You are a role model

    How you respond in times of stress says a lot about you and your parenting. Show your child how a mature adult responds to the world when things are not going your way. You may feel justified in blowing up and getting into a shouting match, but nothing gets heard or resolved over yelling. Make change at indoor volume.

  • 5. Yours is not the only valid opinion

    It may be time to sit back and actually listen to your teen’s point of view. Yes he may lie, and yes she may be manipulative, but somewhere deep down your teens are learning to navigate the world, and there is likely some structured and logical thinking. Acknowledge what actually makes sense, and build on that.

    Fights with your teens can be stepping stones into adulthood, so make sure you’re laying a good foundation. Teach your sons and daughters to resolve conflict and face an argument with good skills and goals so everyone comes out unscathed and no worse for wear.

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Georgia D. Lee seeks to empower, inspire, enrich and educate anyone with an open mind, heart and spirit through her most treasured medium – black and white!
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Preserving Your Marriage

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Preserving Your Marriage
I love old homes. There’s something special about a building that’s stood unmoved for century while everything around it changes. It reminds me a lot of strong marriages.

Old homes have unique character. The walls usually aren’t square, and the floors roll and dip. But what they lack in precise construction, they make up for in charm. They’re like stepping into a time machine. You can imagine generations of families running up and down the staircase or laughing at the dinner table. If the walls could talk, the stories would be endless.

But that rich history would disappear if not for thoughtful caretakers. A home can’t withstand decades of sun, rain, and wind without some attention. Cracks have to be fixed, siding repainted, and the roof kept weather tight. Because if the home deteriorates and is lost, so are the memories connected to the place.

Which brings me to marriage. A strong marriage impacts a family for generations. It’s an identity, a sense of belonging in a world full of strangers. But for a marriage to endure, you need thoughtful caretakers. When cracks appear in the relationship or the paint peels, the answer is not to level it and start over. It’s to give it the loving care it deserves to restore it back to health. Because when a marriage ends in divorce, it’s like an old house with all of its history being torn down. If your relationship is showing signs of wear, apply Paul’s words in Ephesians 4:32 – Kindness, a tender heart, and forgiveness can go a long way to restoring a marriage.

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8 things you should absolutely never, ever share on Facebook

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8 things you should absolutely never, ever share on Facebook

While Facebook is a fun place to share and post, leave these things off of it.
  • For the most part, Facebook is a great tool. It allows us to stay in touch with friends, share information and ideas and even stay on top of the latest news stories. But Facebook has its share of cons as well. It can spread rumors, stir up trouble, and be a place where people with not-so-nice intentions lurk. With that in mind, here are eight things you should never share on Facebook.

  • 1. Your relationship troubles

    It is dangerous to post about fights you’ve had, things that bother you or even more serious news (like you are considering a divorce or separation) on Facebook. While it may be your way of reaching out for support and friendship, it can be very damaging. Your friends are only seeing your side of the story, and most importantly, they miss the make-up story afterward. They do not get to go through the forgiveness/apology side of the story, and may not understand why you are still with someone who you were so upset with just hours before.

    It can also really hurt your significant other when they see what you said about them on social media. Would you want them saying something similar about you? Keep your private life private. We all have flaws, and we make mistakes. But that doesn’t mean our mistakes have to be told to the world via Facebook. Remember, once it is put out there, it cannot be taken back.

  • 2. Naked baby photos

    While naked baby photos can be super innocent and adorable, they are not something that should be shared on Facebook. There are too many people out there with bad intentions, and they can use your photos for not-so-innocent things. If you do put photos of your little ones taking a bath or something else totally cute while naked, there are some stickers you can use to cover up any parts that may be showing. Remember to always use caution when posting these types of photos.

  • 3. Embarrassing stories about someone else

    If you want to share something embarrassing that happened to you, go for it! The more embarrassing, the better. But when it comes to saying something embarrassing about someone else, whether it be your spouse, friends or children, it’s best not to, unless they give you their permission. While it may be a funny story, they may not be comfortable with you sharing it. They may not want the Facebook world to know about their mishap or mistake.

    When it comes to posting embarrassing stories about your own kids, try to see into the future. While it may be funny now, years from now, when they are teenagers or adults, they may not want their friends pulling up the story about how they wet their pants in the middle of a Wal-Mart. Consider sharing the stories on your own personal private blog instead, or with your close friends verbally; don’t put it on Facebook.

  • 4. Your address/personal information

    I am always surprised when I see someone post a picture of their new driver’s license, or when they leave their phone number in a comments thread. Anyone can access that information, and now they know where you live and how to reach you. It may seem a little paranoid or overly cautious, but giving out your personal information on a Facebook thread may come back to haunt you later.

  • 5. Put-downs

    Our world is full of negativity; why add to it? If you are upset about what someone named their baby, or what color a neighbor painted their house, do you really think posting your opinion on Facebook is going to help the situation? It only spreads more negativity and hatred. People really do read those comments — even the person they are about, and they can really hurt. You may think it is your place to give your opinion, but unless you were asked for it, it’s not. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

  • 6. Gross photos

    Some people think injury photos or that picture of the mold growing on your bread is totally cool. But for others, it is really gross and may cause negative side-effects, like throwing up or even fainting. Sure, it’s your photo and your Facebook account, but photos come up automatically on someone else’s feed, and they may not have the chance to scroll by without seeing it.

  • 7. Something you don’t want everyone to see

    If you really hate your job, or lied about being sick when you were really at a concert, it probably is not a good idea to post about it on Facebook. It will come back to bite you. Several jobs have been lost over people posting about how much they hate their boss or really dislike going to work. And whoever you lied to will see the 67 photos you posted of the great time you had when they thought you were home sick in bed. Even if you hide your posts from someone, there is always a chance they might see it.

  • 8. Someone else’s news

    There are things that people may not want put on Facebook; like the fact that they are pregnant, moving, getting married or other big news. If you want to congratulate someone, send them a private message. Unless they have made a huge announcement, changed their profile picture to reflect their news and made it very clear they are willing to talk about it on social media, do not post about it. It is their news to share, not yours. Who knows — they may not be posting about it for a reason that you do not know about. Respect that.

    While these posts may seem innocent, they can really hurt you or someone else. Use caution when posting online — think before you share.

Megan Shauri
Megan Shauri graduated with a bachelors in anthropology and a masters in psychology. She is a mother of twins.
Website: Meganshauri@gmail.com
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10 Teas to try when … 

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1- You have a headache – Ginger Tea

2- You have bad breath- Black. Tea

3- You have the jitters – Passion Flower Tea

4- You have allergy sniffles – Nettle Tea

5- You have 3pm cravings – Green Tea

6- You’re feeling unintelligent- Ginkgo Tea

7- You want to get to sleep – Valerian Tea

8- You have a sweet tooth – Licorice Tea

9- You have a belly woes- Peppermint Tea

10- You want faster calorie burn – Oolong Tea

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Sturdy Metal Flag #RevviewWithElly #Promotion

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Just got this weatherproof & windproof American flag & sturdy stand Garden Flag Stand Kit!

It’s a LARGE display stand: 32 inches tall, 15 inches wide, & made of sturdy, rust-free one-piece wrought iron that is powder-coated.
The fun part is that it secures any flag with a rubber stopper, bottom flag clip, & double 5.25-inch spiked posts for support.

I Loved that it’s WEATHERPROOF: The stand and flag withstood strong winds, rains, and the snow of New England without rusting or tearing.

It wasn’t hard to assemble. I did it myself within like 3 minutes, and if I did it anyone can slip the flag onto the horizontal post and adhere the rubber stopper to keep the flag from twisting or spinning around the stand.

You can secure the bottom end of the flag to the long bracket with the clip to hold it in place, I didn’t. The reason why I didn’t it was because it didn’t look right to me.

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What makes the GreenWeR Garden Stand Kit so Special?
REMOVABLE flag: Depicting the red, white, and blue, the unfadeable 12-by-18 inch 150D polyester flag can be easily removed, washed, and replaced with any other same-sized flag,  WEATHERPROOF, and a
3 YEAR WARRANTY: If there are any issues, contact us & we will handle them promptly.

Kit includes:
1 Metal Stand – 32×15 inches
1 American Flag – 12×18 inches
1 Rubber Stopper
1 Anti-Wind Clip
1 Instructions

TIP: Lift the tab of the anti-wind clip UP to open. I was initially squeezing down to open clip.
I got this for free in exchange for an honest and unbiased review

You can find it  here 

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Powerbeats 2 Wireless #ReviewWithElly

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Powerbeats 2 Wireless In-Ear Headphone – Black-(Certified Refurbished)

 

The earphones are sweatproof, but not waterproof and come in white, red, and the black. They have the ear hooks that help keep the headphones securely on your head. These new hooks have some bend to them and you can customize the shape to fit around your ear better. I got the headphones to fit pretty snugly — overall I liked the way they fit, and you can adjust the cord length with the little crimp that’s included.

The headphones come in a few different sizes of silicone ear tips. They aren’t meant to be jammed in your ears like many in-ear models. The headphone also doubles as a headset.

A three-button inline remote and microphone are built into the cord for making hands-free calls. If you have an iOS device such as an iPhone or Ipad, you can skip tracks forward and back and adjust volume. However, if you have a Windows or Android phone, you can only adjust the volume and use the middle button to answer and end calls. (In other words, this is a “Made for iPhone” headphone.)

Unfortunately, the headphone doesn’t automatically shut off when disconnected from your phone’s Bluetooth. I think it should, particularly at this price point.

From a sound standpoint, as I said, despite the inability to get a tight seal, I thought it performed well for a Bluetooth headphone. It plays loudly and has relatively clean, aggressive sound.

The only problem, of course, is that they’re expensive. At $169, you’d like to see an automatic shutoff feature and perhaps full waterproofing rather than just sweatproofing.

They are not durable, broke apart and I had to return in less than 90 days. In the end, I will not be recommending the Beats Powerbeats2 Wireless.

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6 things you should never say to someone with depression

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6 things you should never say to someone with depression

Chances are, you know someone struggling with depression. If you want to help instead of hurting, avoid these six common mistakes.

  • 1. “Get over it”

    Depression is a serious matter that is not always easily dealt with. Getting professional treatment in a number of modalities, including prescription medication, therapy and even alternative treatments can help, but saying this won’t make anything better.

  • 2. “It’s not that bad”

    You don’t know how bad it is to them. The event that triggered the depression may not seem significant on the surface, but depression could be doing major damage on the inside once it has taken root. Try not to undermine or minimize how someone feels if you can’t understand what she’s going through.

  • 3. “You’re weak”

    Illness is not weakness. And projecting an ableist attitude onto someone who is suffering shows a lack of compassion and understanding that only makes you appear weak in character. Although a person may feel weak due to his ailment, calling him so will not give him strength.

  • 4. “Stop whining”

    Shaming a person with a psychological disorder is cruel and can cause further damage. Yes, constantly reinforcing the feelings he wants to rid himself of seems illogical and can be irritating, but it comes from a feeling of helplessness. As humans, we tend to express what we feel the most. If he were happy, he would be expressing that instead.

  • 5. “I got over it”

    What works for you will not work for everyone. Another’s experience with depression or its inciting events may be quite different from yours. Everyone has his own predispositions, chemical makeup and personal history, making for a unique treatment and healing plan. Plus, getting over something doesn’t mean you got through it. You may have put something behind you, but if it’s not entirely resolved, it could resurface and rear its ugly head again.

  • 6. “You’ll be fine”

    Be careful using these words. It can appear dismissive, uncaring or cold if said in the wrong way. Keep eye contact, smile kindly, and if you are close enough with the person, reach out and give him a warm hug and firm pat on the shoulder or back when saying this. If you believe he will get through this, let him know you mean it.

    Remember to keep your feelings about life and all of its ups and downs in perspective when addressing someone with depression. Even if you see a simple solution, a depressed person may see hopelessness and nothing in her future. Keep communication open and the bonds strong in your spiritual and biological family. This is the time your loved one needs you the most.

Georgia D. Lee seeks to empower, inspire, enrich and educate anyone with an open mind, heart and spirit through her most treasured medium – black and white!
Website: http://authorgeorgiadlee.weebly.com
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Loving the Stranger #Marriage

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Loving the Stranger
You wouldn’t marry a complete stranger, would you? Well – surprise! – if you’re married, that’s exactly what you’ve done.

On our wedding day, we all innocently believe the same myth: that we know and understand the person we’re marrying. But every newlywed eventually discovers that getting to know the depths of someone’s heart takes years. That’s the nature of relationship, especially one as intimate as marriage. So in that sense, we all marry a stranger. We’re in love with what little we know about our spouse, but we don’t know them. Not really.

  
Maybe that’s why Stanley Hauerwas defines a successful marriage as “learning how to love and care for the stranger to whom you find yourself married.” What does he mean? Simply this: In countless ways, the person we commit to on our wedding day will not be the same person five, ten, or twenty years from now. In fact, neither will we. Marriage changes us. So does raising children, careers, the aging process, and other significant events in our lives.

That’s why it’s important to understand that marriage is not a stopping point where we instantly know our spouse fully and completely. It’s a journey through life between a man and woman, both of whom continually grow and change across their years together. As one speaker said, “When people get married, they tend to believe they’ve found a finished statue, when in reality, they’ve merely found the block of marble from which their spouse will emerge.” Commit to loving your spouse and helping them grow more Christ-like each day.

“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.”

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