7 things you must do If You Find Drugs in your kids room #momlife

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Drugs in your kids room: 7 things you must do
You are looking through your kids room and run across drugs or alcohol. Disbelief, anger, sadness, there are so many emotions. What should you do?

  • So you’re cleaning your kid’s room after asking them for the seventh time to do it. While you’re doing it, you run across some type of alcohol or drug. You’re shocked at first, and then some denial comes in. Then you’re angry. Figuring out a good way to handle it can be the difference between building a stronger relationship with your child or creating an even bigger rift in your relationship with them. Here are several things to remember when you have to deal with this situation.
  • 1. You are not alone

    Every day, parents all over the world have children that are involved in drugs and alcohol. This doesn’t mean it’s OK, but it does mean you don’t have to go through this challenging, and sometimes uncomfortable, time alone. Alanon family is a great resource for parents who are in the midst of not knowing what to do.

  • 2. Have a plan

    It would be really easy to have a negative knee-jerk reaction to finding drugs or alcohol in your child’s room. There will be any number of emotions you will be feeling, and you may want to take care of the problem right then and there. Yes, this could be a crisis, and it’s not something that will be able to solve itself in the next few hours. It will be wise to have a plan of action. When will you talk? Who will you have present with you? What questions will you need to have answered? If you have these kinds of things mapped out ahead of time, your conversation can go much more smoothly as you approach your kid.

  • 3. Don’t go in angry

    It is completely understandable to be angry about this new information you have just found out about. Yet, trying to let someone know your concern about them in the midst of anger doesn’t usually work well. It especially doesn’t work well if you try to do it with a teen. They hear and feel your anger instead of the actual message. Anger is a secondary emotion. What you are really feeling is something more akin to hurt, sadness, disappointment or loss. Those are the emotions you should talk about.

  • 4. You are in charge

    To some degree, you, as the parent, should be in charge in your child’s life. The fact that you found what you found should let you clearly know that you NEED to stay in charge. Your child is off-course and you need to help him get back on course. The challenge here is if you are off-course yourself. It’s going to be much more difficult to get your child back on track. Part of the reason he could be using drugs is due to something you may or may not be doing. Self-evaluation is going to be important in this process. If you are using illegal drugs and your kid knows it, it will be very difficult for him to listen to you. Make sure you are not doing things that undermine you being in charge.

  • 5. Gather support

    You don’t have to do this alone. Since you are in charge it’s going to be important to gather support around yourself and your kid. This support can take form in a variety of ways. The most immediate way to get support is with a spouse or significant other who can help you. Together you can think of some ways to implement a new plan in the home. Gathering other family members, church members or even close friends can be useful as well. If you absolutely have no one in your vicinity to provide support, then the above link to Alanon can be a starting place to find support.

  • 6. Stay consistent

    Kids need consistency in their lives. This is no different. Once you have a plan and have gathered support you now need to stay consistent. You can’t let things get in the way of your consistency. Things unfortunately may need to be arranged in your life in order to make things work in a consistent manner.

  • 7. Love your kid

    When you had your child, there was no way you imagined she would someday use illegal substances. Instead, you had great hopes and dreams for her. At the core of your relationship with her, there was love. This love caused you to stay up nights with her when she was sick, make her favorite meals, take her to places she loved. This love is what will carry you through now. It will help you stay consistent and do the hard things when it comes to helping your child. Love is simply not an emotion, it’s also an action. You can and must love your child even in the midst of these difficult circumstances.

    The important thing to remember through this process is the value of controlled action and love. While this discovery may offer its share of pain, the end result can be one of hope, recovery and understanding.

 

Dr. David Simonsen

How to coupon like a Boss

It’s been a while since I’ve been here. Not because I didn’t want to blog but because I haven’t had the time.

I’ve been sick, had a few visits to the ER and to my PC and it’s a pain when you are so busy and have to keep up with social media.

Sometimes I just need that space and time apart. I apologize to the followers, Friends, and family that comes here to read what I blog. It’s frustrating not having an updated blog. My sincere apologies.

The other reason is that my oldest son graduated high school and we had a party 🙂
What a Stress 😮 planning and organizing a party is so much stress.
My middle child graduates next year I promised I’m already planning and starting to buy things now hahhaha.

Plus every other mother/wife duty

In this post, I wanted to share some of my couponing with you guys.

I’m only a beginner and I’m just learning. Please keep this in mind. 🙂

When you’re a stay home mom and your husband is the only one working, you need to make due whatever way you can to help out.
I found out about couponing not too long ago when I saw the show on tv and I decided to give it a try. I follow a few lady’s on youtube and they post almost weekly what they go buy and the deals they  go out and do.

As far as best deals out there you have to  make your own judgment. Prices also veries based on region.
The deals and sales are absolutely amazing!
I’ve been saving hundreds of dollars with things we use at home every week.

I don’t do stream couponing, I don’t buy what we don’t use, and I don’t buy more quantity than we can consume in a short period of time. The reason why is.

1- Because I don’t want to have a huge stockpile.
2- I don’t see the need for me to do that. ( not criticizing anyone that does I’m just saying it’s not what I want to do. )
3- I’m fine the way I’m doing things now Thank You! 🙂

Some people will go out and buy 20 bags of sugar just because it was on sale for $1.89 and we had a $.75 off coupon on top of that.
I, on the other hand, I went out and only got 2. That was fine for me I had 2 at home and felt that 2 more bag was enough.

A lot of people think ” Well it’s on sale, great price,  why not buy 20? If you can spend that $Money and you want to. Go ahead and do it.
I’m just saying I don’t do it. 

It’s a choice many people make, and a lot are criticized just because they use coupons.
(  Not that’s anyone’s Busyness Anyways. What you do it’s your life. 🙂  )

Here are a few deals from this week

At this supermarket ( Shaws )  I got
6 boxes of General Mills Cereal
4 Boxes of Puffs Tissue paper
4Nut Exactly Snack

merchandise total was – $41.68
I paid a total of $8.05  after coupons and store discount

And I received a $5.00 store credit so basically I got it all for $3.05

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My second one was at CVS 

I LOVE CVS they always have great deals 
2 Xtra Laundry detergent
3 Persil Laundry detergent
2 Gillette Fusion razor
2 Haagen-Dazs Ice Cream
1 Hershey Snack Mix
4 Colgate toothbrushes
2 Colgate toothpaste

All this came out to Merchandise Total – $102.75

I paid $23.61 after Coupons and store discount

and received $26.00 Extrabucks ( CVS Money )

So basically I got it all FREE 🙂

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Argan Oil Hair Mask #Review

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Argan Oil Hair Mask, 8 oz. Hair Treatment Therapy, Deep Conditioner for Damaged & Dry Hair, Heals & Restructures Hair Shaft & Growth, Detoxifies Scalp & Nourishes, Removes Products Residue Buildup (Misc.)
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Packaged with plenty of padding
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Argan Oil Hair Mask
I use to have the worst dry, damaged hair. I decided I wanted to try this Argain oil hair mask.
First because I hear Argan oil is super good for the hair and secondly because I had the opportunity to try it for a discounted price and give you all my honest opinion.
I was exited and happy I got the chance to do this. Like all my reviews If I don’t like something It’s going to get a one star and if I like something it will get a full rating. My honest review is what I’m here for. No matter if I got the product for free or If I paid for it.

This product Deeply conditions and hydrates your hair with Argan, Rosehip, and Coconut Oil it will heal your hair, bringing it back to life without chemicals or pricey treatments! It Undoes years of damage brought on by over-processing hair.
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The hair mask formula was specifically designed to improve your hair’s overall texture and health. Natural oils work to revive hair to its natural beauty.
You’ll see shiny, voluminous hair that’s easy to manage and full of life.
The mask contains botanical ingredients that clean away residue and buildup, nourishing the scalp and helping promote new, healthy growth.
Loaded with organic ingredients like Coconut Oil, Ginger Extract, and Rosehip Seed Oil, this mask gives your hair an abundance of Vitamins like E and B5.
They use natural ingredients to give all types of hair safe, stunning results.
They also give you a Money-Back Guarantee: Why not try something if the company stands by what they are offering you?

You don’t have to spend a fortune on treatments to restore your hair to its natural health and shine. Trust me using this Argan Oil for Hair Mask from Pure Body Naturals you will get the same result!
This do-it-yourself mask is easy to use and offers unbelievable results. This is why I recommend it.

It deeply condition the hair and scalp with essential vitamins and nutrients, the mask nourishes the hair and protects it from further damage.
I got Stronger, luscious hair that’s silky smooth and easy to manage. Not to mention the great smell. It did work for my hair.
Directions
Apply a generous amount to towel-dried clean shampooed damp hair. Use your hands and fingers to evenly distribute through hair, beginning at scalp to hair ends and leave for 5 to 15 minutes and then rinse. Use 1 to 2 times weekly.

Benefits of using this mask

REPAIRS DAMAGED HAIR:
SOFT AND SILKY MANE:
CLEANS AND SOOTHES SCALP:
SUPERIOR SPA QUALITY:

I have received this product at a discount in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.

Natural Arabica Coffee Scrub #ReviewWithElly

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100% Natural Arabica Coffee Scrub 12 oz. with Organic Coffee, Coconut and Shea Butter – Best Acne, Anti Cellulite and Stretch Mark treatment, Spider Vein Therapy for Varicose Veins & Eczema (Misc.)
Received package on time
Packaged with plenty of padding
Container was properly sealed and not leakingI tried the 100% Natural Arabica Coffee Scrub for about 2 weeks now. As you can see in my Photos the product is almost gone.
This scrub smells SO good! If you love the smell of freshly brewed coffee this is perfect for you.
The Coffee Body Scrub is loaded with antioxidants, the description states it helps to fight premature skin aging like wrinkles, sun spots, and fine lines. When applied under and around the eyes, it can help in minimizing the appearance of puffy eyes as caffeine restricts blood vessels, which reduces swelling and inflammation. It can also help lighten dark circles under the eyes.

I have used this on my face every single day. Although I didn’t see any difference as far as the appearance of the puffy eyes and dark circles.

I did notice a BIG difference in my pores and black heads completely clean and gone.
My face is as clear as it ever was, smooth and acne free.
It does say the product is 100% Natural exfoliating scrub & acne treatment.
I stand by that statement 100% they are correct.
It helps remove dirt, giving you a fresh, younger more moisturized skin.
The Coffee grounds in this scrub acts as a mechanical exfoliation that helps to scrub away dead skin to reveal the new, healthy skin underneath and as a chemical Exfoliator removing skin cells with enzymes or acidic properties. It provided my skin with a more glowing and radiant appearance upon 1st use.
All I did was Gently massage scrub in a circular motion in the bath or shower, rinse well. Your skin will have a fine film of oil, do not worry, just gently pat your skin dry to leave it feeling super smooth and soft!

I also noticed it says on the bottle it GETs RID OF CELLULITE: By combining the best quality of organic coffee grounds with moisturizing, skin-soothing organic coconut oil and dead sea salt for an extra exfoliating kick.

I applied the product everyday for two weeks to my belly, legs and arms and it did NOT reduce the appearance of cellulite.
This product also did NOT target any of my stretch marks.
There for I would have to say It is not very effective for stretch mark removal.
How ever it does soften skin as it scrubs away dirt and dead skin cells.
This formula also contains skin-loving Coconut Oil, Olive oil, Shea Butter, Sweet Almond Oil, Grape Seed Oil making this aromatic exfoliating scrub a luxurious staple in any skin care regime.

Benefits of using this Scrub:
Exfoliates your skin
Super Hydration

Instead of using body scrubs with harsh chemicals, I would defiantly recommend using the coffee to scrub that combines coffee grounds with salt, sugar, and oils that leave your skin nourished and moisturized rather than just cleansed.

My Honest review on this product I loved it. Even though it didn’t remove my stretch marks or the cellulite. It’s the best Exfoliator I have ever used and for this price it’s a bargain. Also, just because it didn’t work for me. it doesn’t mean it won’t work for you.

Why waste money in high-priced spa treatments? Indulge in this coffee grounds facial scrub to soften the delicate skin on your face.

Organic Kona Coffee, Coffee Arabica Seed Oil, Dead Sea Salt Granules, Organic Coconut Extract, Dead Sea Salt, Organic Olive Oil,Organic Sweet Almond Oil, Organic Grape Seed Oil, Cacao Extract, Organic Shea Butter

I have received this product at a discount in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.

iPhone 6s Plus Screen Protector @SpigenWorld #ReviewsWithElly

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 iPhone 6s Plus Screen Protector, Spigen® (3 PACK) iPhone 6 Plus / 6s Plus [3D Touch Compatible- Tempered Glass] Most Durable [Easy-Install Wings] Glass Screen Protector [Life Warranty] – SGP11786 (Wireless Phone Accessory)
The iPhone 6s plus screen protector from spigen is perfect. I really mean this when I say perfect. I’ve tried many screen protectors and they all failed right from the start.
When I received it in the mail it came in a secure package. The item in the box is a total of three protectors, cleaning cloth and wet wipes for cleaning the phone before you add the protector on.
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I loved it right away because it’s easy to use with comprehensive instructions, and it looked really clean and smudge free. It leaves no bubbles and that was the best part. It’s also all that it says on the description.
The price for the pack is $22.99 and it’s worth the money. I did drop the phone face down a week after I installed the protector and all that happened was a little small crack on the protector nothing to my actual phone. I would buy this again when I need to.
( I received this product as a discount/free for my unbiased opinion )
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7 ideas to learn how to #BudgetWithElly

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As the family grows,  your cost will increase, and you will always seems to have something new that will come up.

It’s easy to lose track. Here are some tips on how to save money for a greatter achievements in life: the house, the car, the trip, a special gift, a smooth retirement …

1. Record all your expenses for a month To be able to save, you need to know how you are spending the money. It sounds simple and obvious, but it isn’t. Over the next month, mark all your expenses. You don’t need a complicated spreadsheet. A little notebook will do. Write all small expenses, such as  tips or just that cup of coffee. Get ready for some surprises. That sacred coffee every day, or a daily bottle of water, may represent more than $90 per month, or $1080 per year (and $ 10,800 in ten years! Considerable savings). And the outfit you got for your child, those cute ones you cannot resist? If paid with a credit card, calculate an increase of 20+ percent, at least on top of the sticker price. It’s what it will cost you if you fail to pay the invoice total that month. You do not need to give up your daily dose of coffee, or hydration, or fail to dress your child in super cute clothes. All you have to do is just weigh in all the spending. A bottle of water can come full from home, for example. As for the clothes, wait for sales or clarence  and give yourself a spending limit whenever you start buying. Knowing where the money goes every month, you will have a better idea of ​​where to cut to save for the future.

2. Put yourself first. It may not make much sense at first, but the secret to start saving is to “pay” first. No, it’s not for you to buy the first blouse you see on display.  Think about a realistic amount of long-term goals (like changing the car, make that treatment, saving for emergencies, a vacation), and then “pay” early in the month, separating the money in another account. If you wait until the end of the month to see how much left to save after all mandatory expenses, you will realize that there is nothing left, because it is almost always the case for everyone.
The best way to make payments is to schedule automatic transfers from your bank account to another account or an investment. That way it will make you save. You can create, for example, two accounts: one for a long-term goal, such as saving for retirement or emergencies, and one for your dream closest consumption (the trip, the car etc.). Set the transfer to close the day you receive the salary. The cool thing is to create a routine, as if it was as mandatory as paying the electric bill. Later in the month, you will have the satisfaction of knowing that a portion of the salary is already saved for something really constructive. Economists say that an emergency fund should have the equivalent of six months of total expenses. If you have managed to gather that amount, you may even start saving for retirement.

3. Pay off your debts Yes, paying your debts is the best way to save money. The interest rate charged on overdrafts or credit card is much higher than the profit of any investment. Get rid of your debts first, especially credit card, so you can start saving money. If you have late payments, contact the company or bank to see if you can negotiate a settlement. Do not wait, untill you have all the money to pay off the debt. Find out how to pay it off  as soon as possible, even if it has to be little by little.
If it is for you to have some debt, let it be to finance a home. Yes this is a debt that is worth it.
For the car payment, you can do the following: when you finally finish paying, instead of rushing to exchange model and pick up a new provision, pretend that the booklet is not over. Continue paying the same amount for a time, only for yourself, in a separate account. So you will earn enough money to make a better deal, giving greater input and achieving a lower performance, with less interest.

4. Take one goal at a time and be strong! Choose an object of desire, something you want very much. It may be a new sofa, an electronic device, a trip. Calculate how much it will cost and trace a realistic goal, like saving for six or twelve months to achieve. To motivate, spread photos and advertisements of this desired item everywhere (at work, at home, within the portfolio). Whenever thinking about buying something, ask yourself if you want it as much as you want your big goal, the one for which you are saving.

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5. Make the withdrawals hard Search for alternatives applications that are not ready or available to move. Funds with automatic withdrawals when the current account is negative doesn’t work – it is very easy to end up with no savings in a moment of excitement or necessity. Make separate accounts, or apply in investment rules which do not allow automatic withdrawals, or that deem certain work redemptions (such as CDs).

6. Did you receive a money did not expect? Save it! You received a refund of income tax, a bonus at work or some unexpected money? First, resist with all their might to spend that’s the first impulse. If you can resist for a few days, it’ll be much easier to appreciate the extra money. If you’re still having some debt, use that money to reduce it (pay the most from the car financing or own home, for example). All Credit card debts have priority! Second comes the overdraft. It won’t cost you anything to try and talk to the bank manager to see if there’s an easier way to pay. If you do not have a debt, save the money in that special account different from the day to day account, for something that really matter.

7. Rethink the spendings with a car If you have a car, write down all the expenses you have with it. Say that car is practically a child, and it’s true. From property taxes, insurance, financing, fuel, parking, tolls, licensing, washing and repairs, you may be surprised at the amount of expenses annually.
There are people who realize that life becomes even easier without the car (or just one car for couples). Even if for you the car is essential, take it easy with the spending. Leave the car at home whenever you can. Walk to the supermarket and use the delivery service at home. To concentrate their business in the same region. Take the car to solve several things at once, And do the math. In large cities is more expensive to park a car than going back and forth in a taxi, depending on distance. And spending on toll and fuel can surpass that amount of a bus ticket – and even plane.

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