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The things I learned in life – #MomBlogger

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The things I learned in life

I learned that no matter how much I care, some people just do not care. I learned that no matter how good a person is, that person will hurt me from time to time, but I need to forgive her for this. I learned that talking can ease my emotional pain.

I learned that it takes years to build trust and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over long distances. I learned that I could do in moments, things that I will forever regret.

I learned that what matters is not what I have in life, but who I have in life. I learned that members of my family are friends who I was not allowed to choose. I learned that I don’t have to change friends, and, yes, understand that friends change.

I learned that the people I care most in life have been taken too quickly. I learned that I always leave people who I love with loving words, it may be the last time I see them. I learned that the circumstances and the environment have an influence on me, but I am responsible for myself.

I learned that I should not compare myself to others, but do the best I can do. I learned that no matter how far I get, know where I’m going. I learned that no matter how delicate and fragile something is, there are always two sides.

I learned that It will take a long time for me to become the person I want to be. I learned that I can go further after thinking I can not. I learned that either I control my acts or they will control me.

I’ve learned that heroes are people who did what was necessary, facing the consequences. I learned that to have patience requires a lot of practice. I learned that there are people who love me, but just do not know how to show it.

I have learned that my best friend and I can do many thing, or nothing and still have a good times together. I learned that the person I expect to treat me wrong, when I’m down, is one of the few that will help me up. I learned that there are more of my parents in me than I thought.

I learned that when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that does not give me the right to be cruel. I learned that just because someone does not love me the way I want it does not mean that someone doesn’t love me with everything they got. I learned that maturity has more to do with the kinds of experiences I’ve had, and what I learned from them Than how many birthdays I already celebrated.

I learned that I should never tell a child that dreams are silly, or they are out of the question, because fewer things are more humiliating and would be a tragedy if she believed me. I learned it is not always enough to be forgiven by someone, I have to learn to forgive myself. I learned that no matter how many pieces my heart was broken, the world doesn’t stop for me to fix it.

Just learned, the things I learned in life!

brazilian · Depressed · Family Share · Fashion · Health · love · Mental Health · photography

7 Days #Photography challengeĀ 


What’s something special you see daily, but never paid attention long enough to really appreciate what you’re looking at? In this case, it’s not my husband. It’s myself šŸ™‚ I’ve lived a life that I know many people wouldn’t survive it. I know half would give up at the beginning. The other half would maybe try and last halfway. I’m sure there are many and many women’s out there that has suffered or is suffering all or worse than I have. I pray to God to give you strength. It’s not easy. I know!
My mother today at 68 stills has to work to take care of herself otherwise she doesn’t have the income to live on. She has 2 daughters that can’t afford to pay for her living. Sad story.
She has worked so hard her whole life ever since she was little and for what? Today she is still working and not living. Ā That’s why I always say live now if you can. This time will never come around again.
Today’s picture inspired me because I’ve been a fighter.

  • I’ve fought child abuse.
  • I’ve fought mentally and verbally abuse
  • I’ve fought my fears
  • I’ve fought self-esteem
  • I’ve fought depression
  • I’ve fought suicide
  • I’ve fought PTSD
  • I fought drugs
  • I fought alcohol
  • I fought an alcoholic father
  • I fought murder
  • I’ve fought adultery
  • I’ve fought unfaithfulness
  • I’ve fought being sick
  • I’ve been fighting my weight
  • I’ve been fighting my sickness
  • I’ve been fighting this world

This world will not bring us better things, from here on it will only be worst. Some of these things I’m still fighting daily like PTSD. Depression. Etc. Some stuff you can never get rid of it. It’s a constant battle.

Fashion · photography · Style

Doing My Before and After the Right Way #fblogger

Makeup By Elly 4Guys_1Girl

Everyone that knows me knows I love makeup and fashion. Clothes, shoes, bags, and makeup are my favorites. Now you ask me you must have a lot of it then.Ā Actually no… I have plenty, but it’s never enough. I have enough bags; some I haven’t even used yet. Shoes I don’t have many I do need to buy some cute ones, but it’s hard to find the perfect fit comfortable and that looks good. I love the looks of many brands, but they just don’t look good on my feet I don’t know why.
Clothes I’m just starting to build up my wardrobe as I’m losing weight, I didn’t want to start buying all these outfit being 50 pounds overweight, but now that I lost some I started to.


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MakeupĀ I don’t buy anything too expensive Unless I really like it and it’s worth me paying that amount of money for it. Otherwise, I buy cheap makeup and I get the same results.
A lot of people doubted that I could do a cute makeup on a budget, so I proved them wrong. I got makeup from CVS pharmacy, and my brushes are from BHcosmetic and I did a before and after picture and this is my results.

Makeup By Elly 4Guys_1Girl

I wanted an opinion to see what you all think. I think it came out nice. The first photo I used bronzer and the last one I didn’t. Personally, now I will never leave the house without some bronzer I love it.

Makeup By Elly @4Guys_1Girl

Just to make sure you guys know, I am an amateur I do NOT know how to do makeup professionally I only do it on myself everything I know I learned by myself on myself … I got not courses or classes for it at all.

and that explins why it’s not perfect LOL

Makeup By Elly @4Guys_1Girl

brazilian · FitMom · food · Health · photography · Recipes

Doing Super Salad Recipes the Right Way ( #foodie )

Perfect Salad

Perfect SaladĀ 

1/2 zucchini into small pieces
5 cherry tomatoes in 4
10 dried tomatoes
1 Lightly cooked broccoli
4 radishes sliced
5 black and green olives
1 bunch of arugula
1 half pineapple into thin slices 4
2 boiled eggs cut into 4
Cooked pumpkin into small pieces

Arrange all the greens, then the cooked and sliced raw, and garnish the dish.
Sprinkle with olive oil and flax seeds.

brazilian · Family Share · Fashion · photography

Challenge — My Style Secrets :)

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Me at age 7

Let’s do a little Challenge here today… Posting a throw back Thursday Before and Now Ā photo Challenge.
Who’s in? šŸ™‚ Come on let’s do this… hehehe
I received some of my old childhood photos from my mother when she went to our hometown ” Brazil ” to visit, and when she came back with all these beauty 😮 I had big surprises to see all my modeling days hahahahahaha

I really don’t know what she was thinking LOL I would have left these photos hidden hahahah.

I still like to believe I have some type of Fashion in me … didn’t I ? What do you think?

The memories I have left from those days in another hand is something I hate to remember. Lets not even go there.
Anyways, this photo above was taken at one of our homes in Rio De Janeiro Brazil.

I think what was in my mind was ” Hey look at me I’m beautiful ” LOL
I love looking at old photos just as long as they don’t have my big head in them ..

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Today This is who I am a simple lady. I love to shop and get dressed and look my best no doubt about that.
I absolutely love make-up and fashion. Even though I don’t dress myself the best I can, I can still coordinate very well šŸ™‚
The only reason I don’t do it to myself is because I haven’t reached my weight goal šŸ™‚
Feeling confident plays, a big role in being a fashionista. I can dress other people, design, and put awesome outfits together. But when it comes to myself, I chicken out and dress simple usually dark colors. I do go wild on my makeups though. I picked a few for you to take a look. Thanks for taking the time and hey, share with me what you think xoxo

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Devotion · FitMom · Health · photography

The Battle and How I’m doing it. ( #weightLoss #fitMom )

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I was 17 — Size 3 — 135 Pounds

I guess I can start by saying there was a point in my life when I was considered ” skinny” I was about 17 and weighed about 135lbs Ā was a size 2-3 I didn’t have any kids, and wasn’t married yet. when I turned 18 I had my first Boy, Got married and started to gain weight. I had my other 2 boys right after the other didn’t give my body enough time to heal between pregnancy, but I don’t count that as an excuse at all. I do have friends that went through the same situation and have 5 kids and went right back to their regular weight and sizes. So being over weight for me is no excuses. It is lack of motivation, and not having the control of eating right. I mean the right things and at the right time.
Something everyone that are over weight or wants to loose weight needs to do. First step is start eating at the right time, the right amount, and the right choice of foods. The heaviest Ā I’ve been was 225 pounds. By this time I couldn’t even look at my self in the mirror with out hatting my self, crying, asking God for help, having hate, and suicidal thoughts. I wanted to die. I hated my self and my body so much I could even have a sexual relationship that I enjoyed with my husband because I would feel so uncomfortable with him. He never judged me, or called me fat, never told me I needed to loose weight, but I would still have those feelings that he didn’t love me anymore or that he would think of someone else while he was with me. Because I was so fat. It’s a horrible situation to be in and very hurtful.

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This Picture I was 31 yrs. old –Size 22 — 225 Pounds

In March of 2013 I was diagnose with the blood clotting disorder of Factor II and one of the main reasons was the fact I was overweight. When they told me I was 225 Pounds and that was one of the reasons I almost died, I knew I had to start doing something. After being in the hospital for about 12 days I came home decided to follow along all the things I knew about diet, but I couldn’t follow the exercise anymore. Right there and then I knew I was going to face a big battle. I could no longer go to the gym because of pain, and I had to wait for my DVT and my PE to completely heal. I could no longer eat any greens and a lot of other stuff I can no longer eat because of my clotting disorder. I became discourage.
Thank God I decided to get right back on track. All of a sudden I started to drop weight out of no where, so I started to help my self and cut down my intake, started to drink more water, stopped drinking soda all together , no Diet, No zero , no soda at all. Started drinking my protein shake from Arbonne.com 2x a day some days I only do it 1x its delicious and I add fresh fruits to it.

I make mine with
1 scoop of protein shake, 1 cup of silk vanilla almond milk, 3 strawberries

It’s the best. Makes me full for 4 hours. Ā If you visit the website they have other stuff there like the detox tea, fruit bars… etc. I only like the shake, plus it’s the only thing I’m aloud to have according to my blood disorder even though it’s all vegan and natural.
My results so far have been pretty good…. I don’t go to the gym. All I do is try my best to eat small portions of all the things I like to eat. I don’t cut anything from my diet besides Soda.

because I believe if I do I will end up eating it later in time and gaining the weight all back. So, I’m losing weight very slowly but healthy and I’m not starving myself. šŸ™‚ Bottom photo is most recent from March 13, 2015, still need to lose 50 pounds
Anyone out there doing any diet? workout? That’s working? Care to share?
I would Love to know what you guys are doing šŸ™‚

Causes

{ A Silent } Killer – True Story #BloodClot

This might be a very long post. Some of you might not even read it all the way. I’m still going to post it as is. A lot of people that will stumble upon my blog don’t know, I’m a survivor of a Deep venous thrombosis on my right leg and a pulmonary embolism. I also carry a mutation called G20210A and we consider it a silent killer. The reason is that it hits you unannounced and it can kill you very quickly. Some of us are very lucky and Blessed to have the opportunity and chance to survive. Ā Unfortunately, a lot of us do pass this on to our children like I did, and I don’t know about everyone but for me, it’s very painful. As I read Kim and Angela’s story. I had tears in my eyes and I asked her to share it with everyone on here and she gave me permission to share it. Everything written below is her own words all credits and copyrights are Kimberly Hennings

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Kimberly Hennings’ story

Kimberly Hennings of Colorado shares her and her sister’s story of pulmonary embolism. Kim developed multiple PEs post-surgery in November 2007. She later found out she carries prothrombin G20210A genetic thrombophilia, as do all of her family members except her mother. Tragically, her sister Angela died of PE at age 40 in July 2008. Angela had no other factors to attribute to developing a DVT in her right knee, which progressed quickly into a single PE, causing her death. Angela had not yet had thrombophilia testing since her insurance company denied coverage for the testing. When she developed breathing problems, they were attributed to severe allergies and asthma. Her diagnosis of PE was missed until it was too late.
In July 2007, I was living as most mothers of young children do. I followed the daily routine of long workdays to financially provide for my family, lost in the rush of seemingly endless soccer practices, band recitals, doctor’s appointments, and evening college courses. In the early morning hours of July 13, 2007, events occurred that set in motion an entire year of turmoil for me and my family. In the early dawn of that day, I was awakened with acute abdominal pain. I could barely manage to speak loudly enough to wake my husband, who was asleep right next to me. I was rushed to the emergency room via ambulance. After an MRI was performed, the attending emergency room physician stated I had suffered a partially impacted bowel that tore and while he expected it to heal, the MRI revealed something far more alarming. I had a rather large ā€œmassā€ on my liver. I underwent a battery of further testing. Months of CT scans, more MRIs, and many blood tests. It was determined that my liver was beginning to fail. I was in constant pain which radiated over my collarbone and down my back. I was sent to the liver transplant department at University Hospital for serious surgery, and removal of the tumor as well as my gallbladder.

On November 14, 2007, I underwent liver resection surgery. The tumor was so large (about the size of a softball); they had to remove approximately 65 percent of my liver along with it. It contained a ā€œparasitic blood supplyā€ which meant it was stealing blood away from my liver, causing it to go into early failure. As soon as I woke up in the recovery room, I felt stabbing, debilitating pain under my right collarbone. I immediately told the nurse that something was wrong. I was having difficulty breathing, and all the pain medication in the world was not alleviating it. Throughout the rest of my stay there, the pain intensified, and my oxygen levels continued to drop. Regardless, I was discharged on 70 percent oxygen levels and sent home with an oxygen tank. We were told by the surgeon, ā€œIf she can walk, she can go home.ā€ and that my breathing problems were probably a result of my asthma, although I had no presence of wheezing.

I will never understand how I survived the 75-mile trip home, or how I ever made it through that one night at home. I slept on the recliner, my abdomen covered in layers of staples, stitches, and bandages. I remember how little I slept, waking myself with startled gasps for air. When we called the surgeon’s office, we were merely told to increase the oxygen output, and that everything would ā€œresolve itselfā€. It was my husband that took notice…a man with no medical background…but he has often said he ā€œfelt it in his gutā€ that something was seriously wrong with me. I even tried to argue with him that ā€œI’m fine.

Quit worrying.ā€ But, as usual, he would not take ā€œNoā€ for an answer. He wanted me to go to the ER; I bartered for the doctor’s office. When our PCP told me he was sending me to the ER on Thanksgiving Eve (less than 24 hours after my initial discharge), my husband never said ā€œI told you so.ā€ I started gasping for air in the car on the way across town…and he begged me to hang on. By the time we got to the ER, I collapsed, and they put me in a wheelchair. I will never forget the feeling of my (then) 3-year-old daughter grasping my hand with her tiny fingers…being so careful not to touch the IVs…and saying, ā€œMommy, please don’t leave me.ā€
The CT scan completed in the ER revealed 6 PEs had embedded into both my lungs. I was admitted immediately to critical condition. An ultrasound revealed a DVT in my left femoral vein. I remember one of the doctors called it ā€œthe mother shipā€.
I remember overhearing the doctor speak to my husband outside the door of my hospital room that first night there. ā€œI’m sorry, Mr. Hennings, you cannot stay with her tonight. Her condition is incredibly serious and I realize you want to be here with her, but if something happens, I need all the room I can manage for my staff and the equipment to save her. If anything changes, we will call you.ā€

I sat up for days in such excruciating pain as the PEs dug deeper into my lungs. They tried to give me morphine, but honestly, I wound up telling them to stop the morphine…because it wasn’t touching the pain I was in. My lungs would spasm and at times my breathing was reduced to tiny, shallow inhalations because breathing in much more brought the pain back again with a vengeance. I also developed a pleural effusion around one of the larger PEs in the base of my right lung. I still had residual pain up to four months afterward. I have never felt such intense pain in my entire life…and I have had an ectopic pregnancy that ruptured in 3 places…the pain from the PEs was worse than that.
Fortunately, I healed well over the next six months. I was on anticoagulation therapy and a follow-up CT scan surprisingly revealed that all the clots were gone. All that remained was scar tissue in my lungs where some of the larger clots had been.

Genetic blood tests conducted while in the hospital revealed that I am a heterozygous carrier of the prothrombin G20210A mutation (also known as Prothrombin Factor II) thrombophilia. I was adamant with my family; my mother, father, brother, and sister, to get genetic testing. My mother tested negative. My brother and father are both positive. My sister, Angela, found herself in a tug-of-war battle trying to get her insurance company to pay for the testing. They consistently denied her claims even though she gave them the results of my blood work. My sister had not had any surgery, nor had she been on a long airline flight, and had not recently had a pregnancy or given birth. She was a mother much like me; living her life, providing for her family, and enjoying being a wife and mother.

Angela was here with us one day, and tragically, gone in the blink of an eye the next.

On July 5, 2008, Angela was battling allergy season in New Hampshire. She collapsed on the floor of her living room, regained consciousness for a short time, and then her heart simply stopped in the ambulance as it reached the parking lot of the hospital.
My brother-in-law still kicks himself for not being able to ā€œseeā€ what was wrong with Angela. Since she was having severe allergy problems, her breathing difficulty was attributed to that. I’ve tried to remind him many times that my symptoms were also ā€œcast offā€ as problems with my asthma, even though I had no presence of wheezing and did not have any problems breathing before surgery. I try to emphasize that one of the top liver transplant surgeons in the United States MISSED my symptoms completely, discharging me with 70 percent O2 levels and an oxygen tank.
That does not alleviate the pain of losing your beloved wife of 16 years and it certainly brings no comfort to the five children she left behind. Her eldest was serving in the U.S. Navy in Iraq at the time of his mother’s death, and her second son was ready to celebrate the 1st birthday of his own son (Angela’s first grandchild). Now, her 3 daughters, ages 14, 11, and 4 have to learn to live anew without their mother. It shakes me to the very core of my being realizing that my nieces will not have her there for their first date, their prom, graduation, or wedding. The youngest won’t even have her mommy there for her very first day of school; something that raced through my mind in those moments when my own daughter grasped my fingers so gingerly that night in the ER and begged me to stay with her.

Our fears now shift to our children, and the terrifying concern that we have passed this silent killer on to them. I recall how difficult it was for us to have our daughter; never knowing at the time that the recurring miscarriages were caused by my blood disorder. I am determined, like a mother lion, to not allow this silent stalker of thrombophilia to steal my daughter away from me…it has already cost me far too much in taking my beloved sister

________ KimberlyĀ 

In Memory of Angela

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Blood Clots
Deep Vein Thrombosis (DVT) or Pulmonary Embolism (PE) causes more than 100,000 deaths in the United States every year.
These include men, women, and children of all ages.
Sadly, these numbers continue to grow.
The good news is that with education and awareness, many blood clot-caused deaths can be prevented.
Please donate today to help us Stop The Clot and save lives!

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Causes · Family Share

Naked Shower :o #challenge

Or should I say Public Bath??? Hahahahahah Ā 

imageYes I know it’s for a great cause but if you ask me. Ā Would I dump a bucket of ice water on my head?

I would say no.. Now I have to be honest did I let my kids do it? Yes

My kids are 14, 15 and 16 years old they got challenged by a friend and family and they wanted to do it so they did it.. But I was talking their ears off.

To me the point is not dumping a bucket of ice water on your head and not making a donation. The point of the challenge is to get people to “Donate”

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Now this challenge like every other that goes around the internet starts right and ends up being stupid because people take it out of control. #icebucketchallenge was for people to do the challenge and make a donation. Hey if you can’t donate $100 donate $5 I’m sure if 10000 people donate $5 they will have a better outcome than 10000 people just waisting water on their heads.

Again this is just my opinion. I’m sure they had great outcome from the challenge people making some generous donations but to all those people just dumping water on their heads to be stupid it’s ridiculous.

Yes we do laugh at some of the videos we see And get amused but I have also seen some videos of people being seriously hurt and it’s not going to be long we will hear of people dying from doing this. I would think twice before you go out there and do something stupid.

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Ā according to the ALS organization site ALSA.orgĀ 

ALS is responsible for nearly two deaths per hundred thousand population annually.
Approximately 5,600 people in the U.S. are diagnosed with ALS each year.

Americans may have the disease at any given time.
About twenty percent of people with ALS live five years or more and up to ten percent will survive more than ten years and five percent will live 20 years. There are people in whom ALS has stopped progressing and a small number of people in whom the symptoms of ALS reversed.
ALS can strike anyone.

( info taken out of the ALSA.org site please read it for more information )

TO MAKE A DONATION FOR ALS VISIT THE SITE AND DONATE www.alsa.org

TO DONATE TO KIDS IN AFRICA HERE IS SOME INFO

Unimil – USA

20 Meredian Street – 4th Floor

East Boston – MA

Phone: +1 (617) 803-5544

Mobile: +1 (617) 719-6476

Email: contact@unimil.org

Web: http://www.unimil.org

Once again not trying to offend anyone just my opinion.

I rather donate than waste šŸ™‚ xoxo

Fashion

Getting Dressed with @Nordstrom #fashion

This awesome looking dress is from Nordstrom and When they had them for sale the price was around $200-210 I actually bought it for a great deal. I got mine for only $79 and it was perfect. It fit just right and it made me feel so pretty šŸ™‚ I was in love with it. I used it to a friends wedding. The only problem I had with it was at the breast it was too big and at last minute I had to improvise and tie the back with something so my boobs wouldn’t hang out lol. A lot of the people I know when I say I got my dress at Nordstrom they usually say

well I can’t afford anything there.

Well if you look for it they do have great deals and some awesome things going out of stock and big savings. So what if you will be the last one to use it for that season at least I had on a beautiful dress for a wedding that people thought I paid a lot of money for it and it only cost me $79 lol. It’s worth it. You all need to check out the sale and all the good deals at Nordstrom 😜
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Info straight from nordstrom.com

A block-printed botanical pattern covers a sophisticated gown ruched through the bodice for a curvy, hourglass silhouette that flares at the hem for a swirly finish.
Hidden back zip with hook-and-eye closure.
Approx. length from shoulder: 61″.
Partially lined, with padded cups in bodice and lingerie straps at shoulders.
Polyester/spandex; dry clean.
By Xscape; made in the USA of imported fabric.
Encore.

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This review was done only based on my experience on a product that I bought and used myself. I was not approached by the company to write anything good or bad about any of their products. Although I would love to do review for any company šŸ™‚ Ā©freedomofspeech