Drifting in Marriage
Good marriages are like a relaxing canoe ride when the winds are calm and the lake water is as smooth as glass. You just have to be careful you don’t drift.
One year, while working as a camp counselor, Craig Jutila grabbed a canoe for a quiet afternoon on the lake. There wasn’t a cloud in the sky, and almost no breeze, so the water was completely still. Letting the canoe come to rest in the middle of the lake, it dawned on him: it was after hours, and no other boats were out. So he did the only sensible thing. With an extra life jacket for his pillow, he nestled in for a short nap.
An hour later, he woke up to voices. Somehow his canoe had beached along the shoreline of a camping area. Craig realized there was a current in the water and a breeze in the air he hadn’t sensed. They’d caused him to drift, and he ended up somewhere he never intended to be.
Like that canoe, marriages often drift. There’s no obvious conflict or struggle, just subtle distractions that lull spouses asleep. Couples hardly notice they’re losing interest in one another until they end up somewhere they never intended to be.
Fortunately, there’s an easy solution. Be intentional about the path your relationship is taking and keep your eyes focused on the Lord. It may not take as much effort as you think, but these small course corrections can change your marriage.
“Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.”
Proverbs 4:25-27 NIV
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“Seek First the Kingdom”
If our mission from Christ is to “seek first the kingdom of God,” how can a successful, God-honoring marriage not be marked by mission? We’re not told to seek first an intimate marriage, a happy life, obedient children, or anything else. Jesus tells us to seek first one thing, and one thing only: His kingdom and His righteousness (the two words define and build on each other, creating one common pursuit). A successful marriage is not only supported by a kingdom pursuit, but in many ways the pursuit is a prerequisite for post-infatuation intimacy.
Life without this aim, and marriage without this purpose, is going to lose a lot of its luster. “We hunger for this today: cooperating together, meshing, working like a mountain climbing team, ascending the peak of our dream, and then holding each other at the end of the day. God has planted this hunger deep within every married couple. It’s more than a hunger for companionship. It’s more than a hunger to create new life. It’s a third hunger, a hunger to do something significant together. According to God’s Word, we were joined to make a difference. We were married for a mission.”
Being “married for a mission” can revitalize a lot of marriages in which the partners think they suffer from a lack of compatibility; my suspicion is that many of these couples actually suffer from a lack of purpose. Jesus’s words given to individuals in Matthew 6:33 are perhaps even truer in marriage. When we give away our life, we find it. When we focus outside our marriage, we end up strengthening our marriage.
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matthew 6:33
Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal,20but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Matthew 6: 19-21
* Is your marriage one with mission? How can you and your spouse more fully live a life of mission as a couple?
* Ref: The Bible & Breath Spiritual Passion into your Marriage
Love at Mistletoe Inn
Series: A Year of Weddings Novella
By Cindy Kirk
Published by Zondervan
They’ve helped orchestrate the perfect day for countless couples. Now twelve new couples will find themselves in the wedding spotlight in the second Year of Weddings novella collection.
An owner of a Victorian inn and charming rustic barn is used to creating the perfect setting for other couples’ nuptials. But when she falls head over heels for the new man in her life, will she be prepared to walk down that aisle?
When I got this book to read It took me longer than I expected I wished I finished it sooner what a cute story 🙂
Hope Prentiss get shocked as she learned she is still married to her high school friend John Burke. John vows and paperwork they signed makes everything legal.
How is Hope going to get out of this situation she unexpectedly found herself in. This foolish mistake They made while just a teenagers? But John has other plans, he meant his words to Hope 10 years ago when he said “I do” with all his heart. But now after such a long time. How will he make Hope believe he is the man for her?
The Story tells you all about it and how they love became mutual 🙂
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This awesome looking dress is from Nordstrom and When they had them for sale the price was around $200-210 I actually bought it for a great deal. I got mine for only $79 and it was perfect. It fit just right and it made me feel so pretty 🙂 I was in love with it. I used it to a friends wedding. The only problem I had with it was at the breast it was too big and at last minute I had to improvise and tie the back with something so my boobs wouldn’t hang out lol. A lot of the people I know when I say I got my dress at Nordstrom they usually say
well I can’t afford anything there.
Well if you look for it they do have great deals and some awesome things going out of stock and big savings. So what if you will be the last one to use it for that season at least I had on a beautiful dress for a wedding that people thought I paid a lot of money for it and it only cost me $79 lol. It’s worth it. You all need to check out the sale and all the good deals at Nordstrom 😜
Info straight from nordstrom.com
A block-printed botanical pattern covers a sophisticated gown ruched through the bodice for a curvy, hourglass silhouette that flares at the hem for a swirly finish.
Hidden back zip with hook-and-eye closure.
Approx. length from shoulder: 61″.
Partially lined, with padded cups in bodice and lingerie straps at shoulders.
Polyester/spandex; dry clean.
By Xscape; made in the USA of imported fabric.
This review was done only based on my experience on a product that I bought and used myself. I was not approached by the company to write anything good or bad about any of their products. Although I would love to do review for any company 🙂 ©freedomofspeech