Preserving Your Marriage

Preserving Your Marriage
I love old homes. There’s something special about a building that’s stood unmoved for century while everything around it changes. It reminds me a lot of strong marriages.

Old homes have unique character. The walls usually aren’t square, and the floors roll and dip. But what they lack in precise construction, they make up for in charm. They’re like stepping into a time machine. You can imagine generations of families running up and down the staircase or laughing at the dinner table. If the walls could talk, the stories would be endless.

But that rich history would disappear if not for thoughtful caretakers. A home can’t withstand decades of sun, rain, and wind without some attention. Cracks have to be fixed, siding repainted, and the roof kept weather tight. Because if the home deteriorates and is lost, so are the memories connected to the place.

Which brings me to marriage. A strong marriage impacts a family for generations. It’s an identity, a sense of belonging in a world full of strangers. But for a marriage to endure, you need thoughtful caretakers. When cracks appear in the relationship or the paint peels, the answer is not to level it and start over. It’s to give it the loving care it deserves to restore it back to health. Because when a marriage ends in divorce, it’s like an old house with all of its history being torn down. If your relationship is showing signs of wear, apply Paul’s words in Ephesians 4:32 – Kindness, a tender heart, and forgiveness can go a long way to restoring a marriage.

8 things you should absolutely never, ever share on Facebook

8 things you should absolutely never, ever share on Facebook

While Facebook is a fun place to share and post, leave these things off of it.

  • For the most part, Facebook is a great tool. It allows us to stay in touch with friends, share information and ideas and even stay on top of the latest news stories. But Facebook has its share of cons as well. It can spread rumors, stir up trouble, and be a place where people with not-so-nice intentions lurk. With that in mind, here are eight things you should never share on Facebook.
  • 1. Your relationship troubles

    It is dangerous to post about fights you’ve had, things that bother you or even more serious news (like you are considering a divorce or separation) on Facebook. While it may be your way of reaching out for support and friendship, it can be very damaging. Your friends are only seeing your side of the story, and most importantly, they miss the make-up story afterward. They do not get to go through the forgiveness/apology side of the story, and may not understand why you are still with someone who you were so upset with just hours before.

    It can also really hurt your significant other when they see what you said about them on social media. Would you want them saying something similar about you? Keep your private life private. We all have flaws, and we make mistakes. But that doesn’t mean our mistakes have to be told to the world via Facebook. Remember, once it is put out there, it cannot be taken back.

  • 2. Naked baby photos

    While naked baby photos can be super innocent and adorable, they are not something that should be shared on Facebook. There are too many people out there with bad intentions, and they can use your photos for not-so-innocent things. If you do put photos of your little ones taking a bath or something else totally cute while naked, there are some stickers you can use to cover up any parts that may be showing. Remember to always use caution when posting these types of photos.

  • 3. Embarrassing stories about someone else

    If you want to share something embarrassing that happened to you, go for it! The more embarrassing, the better. But when it comes to saying something embarrassing about someone else, whether it be your spouse, friends or children, it’s best not to, unless they give you their permission. While it may be a funny story, they may not be comfortable with you sharing it. They may not want the Facebook world to know about their mishap or mistake.

    When it comes to posting embarrassing stories about your own kids, try to see into the future. While it may be funny now, years from now, when they are teenagers or adults, they may not want their friends pulling up the story about how they wet their pants in the middle of a Wal-Mart. Consider sharing the stories on your own personal private blog instead, or with your close friends verbally; don’t put it on Facebook.

  • 4. Your address/personal information

    I am always surprised when I see someone post a picture of their new driver’s license, or when they leave their phone number in a comments thread. Anyone can access that information, and now they know where you live and how to reach you. It may seem a little paranoid or overly cautious, but giving out your personal information on a Facebook thread may come back to haunt you later.

  • 5. Put-downs

    Our world is full of negativity; why add to it? If you are upset about what someone named their baby, or what color a neighbor painted their house, do you really think posting your opinion on Facebook is going to help the situation? It only spreads more negativity and hatred. People really do read those comments — even the person they are about, and they can really hurt. You may think it is your place to give your opinion, but unless you were asked for it, it’s not. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

  • 6. Gross photos

    Some people think injury photos or that picture of the mold growing on your bread is totally cool. But for others, it is really gross and may cause negative side-effects, like throwing up or even fainting. Sure, it’s your photo and your Facebook account, but photos come up automatically on someone else’s feed, and they may not have the chance to scroll by without seeing it.

  • 7. Something you don’t want everyone to see

    If you really hate your job, or lied about being sick when you were really at a concert, it probably is not a good idea to post about it on Facebook. It will come back to bite you. Several jobs have been lost over people posting about how much they hate their boss or really dislike going to work. And whoever you lied to will see the 67 photos you posted of the great time you had when they thought you were home sick in bed. Even if you hide your posts from someone, there is always a chance they might see it.

  • 8. Someone else’s news

    There are things that people may not want put on Facebook; like the fact that they are pregnant, moving, getting married or other big news. If you want to congratulate someone, send them a private message. Unless they have made a huge announcement, changed their profile picture to reflect their news and made it very clear they are willing to talk about it on social media, do not post about it. It is their news to share, not yours. Who knows — they may not be posting about it for a reason that you do not know about. Respect that.

    While these posts may seem innocent, they can really hurt you or someone else. Use caution when posting online — think before you share.

Megan Shauri
Megan Shauri graduated with a bachelors in anthropology and a masters in psychology. She is a mother of twins.
Website: Meganshauri@gmail.com

10 Teas to try when … 

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1- You have a headache – Ginger Tea

2- You have bad breath- Black. Tea

3- You have the jitters – Passion Flower Tea

4- You have allergy sniffles – Nettle Tea

5- You have 3pm cravings – Green Tea

6- You’re feeling unintelligent- Ginkgo Tea

7- You want to get to sleep – Valerian Tea

8- You have a sweet tooth – Licorice Tea

9- You have a belly woes- Peppermint Tea

10- You want faster calorie burn – Oolong Tea

Sturdy Metal Flag #RevviewWithElly #Promotion


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Just got this weatherproof & windproof American flag & sturdy stand Garden Flag Stand Kit!

It’s a LARGE display stand: 32 inches tall, 15 inches wide, & made of sturdy, rust-free one-piece wrought iron that is powder-coated.
The fun part is that it secures any flag with a rubber stopper, bottom flag clip, & double 5.25-inch spiked posts for support.

I Loved that it’s WEATHERPROOF: The stand and flag withstood strong winds, rains, and the snow of New England without rusting or tearing.

It wasn’t hard to assemble. I did it myself within like 3 minutes, and if I did it anyone can slip the flag onto the horizontal post and adhere the rubber stopper to keep the flag from twisting or spinning around the stand.

You can secure the bottom end of the flag to the long bracket with the clip to hold it in place, I didn’t. The reason why I didn’t it was because it didn’t look right to me.

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What makes the GreenWeR Garden Stand Kit so Special?
REMOVABLE flag: Depicting the red, white, and blue, the unfadeable 12-by-18 inch 150D polyester flag can be easily removed, washed, and replaced with any other same-sized flag,  WEATHERPROOF, and a
3 YEAR WARRANTY: If there are any issues, contact us & we will handle them promptly.

Kit includes:
1 Metal Stand – 32×15 inches
1 American Flag – 12×18 inches
1 Rubber Stopper
1 Anti-Wind Clip
1 Instructions

TIP: Lift the tab of the anti-wind clip UP to open. I was initially squeezing down to open clip.
I got this for free in exchange for an honest and unbiased review

You can find it  here 

Classy not Trashy #miniskirt

Classy not Trashy #miniskirt

Chloé pink blouse
matchesfashion.com

Yves Saint Laurent mini skirt
$2,235 – matchesfashion.com

Strap shoes
foreverunique.co.uk

Watch
ebags.com

Powerbeats 2 Wireless #ReviewWithElly

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Powerbeats 2 Wireless In-Ear Headphone – Black-(Certified Refurbished)

 

The earphones are sweatproof, but not waterproof and come in white, red, and the black. They have the ear hooks that help keep the headphones securely on your head. These new hooks have some bend to them and you can customize the shape to fit around your ear better. I got the headphones to fit pretty snugly — overall I liked the way they fit, and you can adjust the cord length with the little crimp that’s included.

The headphones come in a few different sizes of silicone ear tips. They aren’t meant to be jammed in your ears like many in-ear models. The headphone also doubles as a headset.

A three-button inline remote and microphone are built into the cord for making hands-free calls. If you have an iOS device such as an iPhone or Ipad, you can skip tracks forward and back and adjust volume. However, if you have a Windows or Android phone, you can only adjust the volume and use the middle button to answer and end calls. (In other words, this is a “Made for iPhone” headphone.)

Unfortunately, the headphone doesn’t automatically shut off when disconnected from your phone’s Bluetooth. I think it should, particularly at this price point.

From a sound standpoint, as I said, despite the inability to get a tight seal, I thought it performed well for a Bluetooth headphone. It plays loudly and has relatively clean, aggressive sound.

The only problem, of course, is that they’re expensive. At $169, you’d like to see an automatic shutoff feature and perhaps full waterproofing rather than just sweatproofing.

They are not durable, broke apart and I had to return in less than 90 days. In the end, I will not be recommending the Beats Powerbeats2 Wireless.