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When Life Gives you lemon 🍋

There are definitely times when bad things happen so good things can come your way.
I’m a true believer of ” Everything happens for a reason. ” Either it’s a good or bad one.
Last year I was living a life that I would come home every day shower and sleep. To wake up in the morning and do the same thing over and over.

I liked what I was doing. Just not how it was happening. Working over 48 hrs. a week I started getting sick again. And ended up having a lot of doctor’s appointment etc.

as I was getting all these appointments, I was no longer able to put all my effort into my job.
One of the days I had to call out because of being sick. I got asked by my manager to find another job.

I couldn’t agree more with him that I needed something else.

Me and Chris always had this dream of working a Monday – Friday. 9-5pm paid holidays. And able to take time off.

The job I had obviously wasn’t allowing me to do so. And not to remind you it made me sick all over again due to stress and long hour days.

I decided to post my resume online. Hoping and praying for the best.

I decided to give my two weeks at my current job.

I remember feeling sad, annoyed and stressed.
I do have a lot of bills to pay. So, I was very worried I wouldn’t find anything.

I sent out a few applications that day.
To my surprise, I received a phone call that morning (when I had just given my 2 weeks).
It was this amazing lady (very friendly) looking for an office manager. I set the appointment for an interview.

I left that company that day in tears. I couldn’t believe what just happened.

I was so amazed. And happy I could have left there jumping up and down in joy.

I got offered a job as an office manager.
Working Monday – Friday 9-5pm. Getting paid holidays. Time off as I need it. With an amazing family. That knows how to be a boss and actually care for their employees.


True I don’t know them yet. But I have a feeling this is going to be a lifetime relationship.
I thank God daily for this opportunity a dream that came true without me even deserving it.
Ok I might deserve it 😂, but you all know what I mean? I didn’t expect it to work so fast.
I’m sitting at my desk this afternoon and all I can think about is how grateful I am. 🙂

Isaque has started a new job and it’s a great opportunity for him.

Joshua will start a new job Monday.

Gabe is doing great at his job.

Chris also got offered a job and opportunity that made him very happy. Now we have time to work and enjoy our lives.Couldn’t ask for more.

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5 issues to be addressed in Premarital Counseling

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Planning your wedding is stressful enough, but it’s a piece of buttercream-frosted cake compared to the day-to-day reality of actual marriage.

Indeed, so often couples get caught up with everything involved in prepping for their Big Day and romanticizing the concept of marriage that they forget to (or don’t realize that they should) address all of the less-romantic issues that will inevitably arise when two people commit to sharing their lives together.

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Premarital counseling is an excellent way to confront these issues upfront and establish a stronger, healthier relationship moving into matrimony.

1. Money
Finances are a common cause of contention between those about to be married.

2. Time
Time can also be a big problem in a relationship. One may feel neglected if their partner is often away at work, school or other functions. Conversely, a partner may value their space and wish they could spend more time alone.

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3. In-Laws
When you marry someone, you’re not just marrying them – you’re essentially marrying their family as well. It’s important for you to learn how to get along with the whole family, especially if at this point you’re already on shaky ground. It’s also helpful to establish what sort of boundaries as a couple you will put in place. Some family members may be in the habit of just dropping by for a visit. This may upset your new partner. Also, it would be helpful to discuss how you plan to spend time with both sets of in-laws during holidays.

4. Resolving conflict
All couples disagree sometimes. What’s less important than the frequency of conflict (though frequent fighting is a serious issue that must be addressed, of course) is how a couple reacts to said engagements.

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5. Religion
Again, now is not the time to sweep lingering issues under the rug. Statistically, couples that share the same faith (or lack thereof) are more likely to stay together than those that don’t. If your partner is of a different faith, you need to decide whether this is something that will bother you long-term or not. This can be a critical issue.

Be sure to discuss these critical issues during premarital counseling. Ultimately, it all comes down to honesty and respect.

If you’re able to be honest with your partner and respect their traits and beliefs even when you don’t like or agree with them, and if your partner can do the same, then the future of your marriage looks bright.

 

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Start building your trust #SundayDevotion

Start building your trust in God day by day!

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Form New Habits

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
2 Corinthians 5:17

God’s Word teaches us that when we receive Christ as our Savior and Lord, He gives us a new nature. He gives us His nature. He also gives us a spirit of discipline and self-control, which is vital in allowing us to choose the ways of our new nature. He gives us a sound mind (see 2 Timothy 1:7), and that means we can think about things properly without being controlled by emotion. The way we once were passes away, and we have all the equipment we need for a brand-new way of behaving. God gives us the ability and offers to help us, but we are not puppets and God will not manipulate us. We must choose spirit over flesh and right over wrong. Our renewed spirits will then control our souls and bodies or, to say it another way, the inner person will control the outer person.

Without God’s help we have difficulty doing things in moderation. We frequently eat too much, spend too much money, have too much entertainment, and talk too much. We are excessive in our actions because we behave emotionally. And after the thing is done and cannot be undone, we regret doing it. But we can choose to form new habits, not doing something just because we feel like it, but instead doing what will produce the best result in the end.

We do not have to live in regret. God gives us His Spirit to enable us to make right and wise choices. He urges us, guides and leads us, but we still have to cast the deciding vote. If you have been casting the wrong vote, all you need to do is change your vote. Forming new habits will require making a decision to not do what you feel like doing unless it agrees with God’s will.

Trust in Him
God wants you to live out of your new nature, not your old one. Every time you put your trust in Him and cast the deciding vote to obey, His Spirit transforms you and makes you more like Him.

From the book Trusting God Day by Day by Joyce Meyer. Copyright © 2012 by Joyce Meyer. 

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4 ways to have a Family Saturday

We all have busy lives. Finding time today is almost impossible

If you’re like me, you feel like there’s still stuff to do at the end of the day. Tempted to keep your computer and phone on at all times. Fighting distractions in your brain even when with your family.

You need to have priorities. In the end, our family is all that matters, so don’t push your family to the bottom of your to-do list.
If you want a stronger marriage and family, start by investing more time.

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Family Date Night

1. Remember that “Date Night” doesn’t have to happen at night

Look for ways to connect during the day.

2. Never walk into your house while you’re on your phone

I make sure to end the call before walking through the door.

3. Have set times where everybody is unplugged

Try to shut down the electronics more often. Talking with each other is always better than texting with somebody else!

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4. Prioritize family time AND one-on-one time

Plan activities you can all do as a family, also plan for one-on-one time with each other and with each of your kids individually. That time will be golden for your kids.

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Fashion · photography · Style

Doing My Before and After the Right Way #fblogger

Makeup By Elly 4Guys_1Girl

Everyone that knows me knows I love makeup and fashion. Clothes, shoes, bags, and makeup are my favorites. Now you ask me you must have a lot of it then. Actually no… I have plenty, but it’s never enough. I have enough bags; some I haven’t even used yet. Shoes I don’t have many I do need to buy some cute ones, but it’s hard to find the perfect fit comfortable and that looks good. I love the looks of many brands, but they just don’t look good on my feet I don’t know why.
Clothes I’m just starting to build up my wardrobe as I’m losing weight, I didn’t want to start buying all these outfit being 50 pounds overweight, but now that I lost some I started to.


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Makeup I don’t buy anything too expensive Unless I really like it and it’s worth me paying that amount of money for it. Otherwise, I buy cheap makeup and I get the same results.
A lot of people doubted that I could do a cute makeup on a budget, so I proved them wrong. I got makeup from CVS pharmacy, and my brushes are from BHcosmetic and I did a before and after picture and this is my results.

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I wanted an opinion to see what you all think. I think it came out nice. The first photo I used bronzer and the last one I didn’t. Personally, now I will never leave the house without some bronzer I love it.

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Just to make sure you guys know, I am an amateur I do NOT know how to do makeup professionally I only do it on myself everything I know I learned by myself on myself … I got not courses or classes for it at all.

and that explins why it’s not perfect LOL

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What Will Wednesday Be Like With No Words? #Photography

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Four Guys and a Lady

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Challenge — My Style Secrets :)

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Me at age 7

Let’s do a little Challenge here today… Posting a throw back Thursday Before and Now  photo Challenge.
Who’s in? 🙂 Come on let’s do this… hehehe
I received some of my old childhood photos from my mother when she went to our hometown ” Brazil ” to visit, and when she came back with all these beauty 😮 I had big surprises to see all my modeling days hahahahahaha

I really don’t know what she was thinking LOL I would have left these photos hidden hahahah.

I still like to believe I have some type of Fashion in me … didn’t I ? What do you think?

The memories I have left from those days in another hand is something I hate to remember. Lets not even go there.
Anyways, this photo above was taken at one of our homes in Rio De Janeiro Brazil.

I think what was in my mind was ” Hey look at me I’m beautiful ” LOL
I love looking at old photos just as long as they don’t have my big head in them ..

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Today This is who I am a simple lady. I love to shop and get dressed and look my best no doubt about that.
I absolutely love make-up and fashion. Even though I don’t dress myself the best I can, I can still coordinate very well 🙂
The only reason I don’t do it to myself is because I haven’t reached my weight goal 🙂
Feeling confident plays, a big role in being a fashionista. I can dress other people, design, and put awesome outfits together. But when it comes to myself, I chicken out and dress simple usually dark colors. I do go wild on my makeups though. I picked a few for you to take a look. Thanks for taking the time and hey, share with me what you think xoxo

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WordLess Wednesday { #Photography } 

This Is a little of My work when I was just starting to fall in love with photography. There’s almost no editing done here as you can tell the lighting is poor. The dark circles in her eyes. There’s no sharpness added to her eyes. There’s so much I could do today that I didn’t know back then. Maybe later I can do an update of these same photos, that will be fun.  What do you think? Lol 

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WordLess { #Photography } Passion

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{ The Hurt & The Healer }

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Why?

The question that is never far away
The healing doesn’t come from the explained
Jesus please don’t let this go in vain

You’re all i have
All that remains

So here i am
What’s left of me
Where glory meets my suffering

I’m alive
Even though a part of me has died

You take my heart and breathe it back to life
I’ve fallen into your arms open wide
When the hurt and the healer collide

Breathe
Sometimes i feel it’s all that i can do

Pain so deep that i can hardly move

Just keep my eyes completely fixed on you

Lord take hold and pull me through

So here i am
What’s left of me
Where glory meets my suffering

I’m alive
Even though a part of me has died

You take my heart and breathe it back to life
I’ve fallen into your arms open wide
When the hurt and the healer collide

It’s the moment when humanity
Is overcome by majesty
When grace is ushered in for good
And all the scars are understood
When mercy takes its rightful place

And all these questions fade away
When out of the weakness we must bow
And hear you say “it’s over now”

I’m alive
Even though a part of me has died

You take my heart and breathe it back to life
I’ve fallen into your arms open wide
When the hurt and the healer collide

Jesus come and break my fear
Awake my heart and take my tears

Find your glory even here
When the hurt and the healer collide

Jesus come and break my fear
Awake my heart and take my tears

Find your glory even here

Compositor: MercyMe

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